Originally posted by Lorraine 1966
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This forum was established for both surgical and non surgical patients, and parents of patients - that they may have a place to both support each other, and learn new things. Before I joined this forum, I spent quite some time reading what others had to say. The changes you speak of came about long before I joined. And the changes involved more non-surgical participation - which the surgical crowd seems not happy with. It is unfair to blame me for a growing population of those seeking non-surgical methods.
One rarely sees a member who is seeking non-surgical methods, over in the surgical threads challenging the exchange of information. I think there may have been a few exceptions to that - but such posters have been banned from forum. But consistently, over and again, in the non surgical threads there are some who feel it is both their right, and act as if it is their duty - to challenge every exchange of non-surgical information that is posted. When this happens, and the response is not to sit down and shut up .... then the accusations fly of "making trouble." This has been going on for many years before I joined this forum, is a matter of record, and is available to anyone who wishes to look for it.
I too have seen people leave - or discontinue posting, but it is not because of me - but rather, because of the continued assault against all things non-surgical - unless of course, the method fits into the current mold of standard medical practice. The best examples of this can be found in threads where people have tried to share information regarding Schroth, Spincor, and newer bracing methods not yet in the medical mainstream.
It is not my style to go out of my way to exchange insults with others - however when insulted, I have stood my ground - and tried to respond in a reasonable manner ... In other words, I do not shut up and sit down. That is the only "problem" with me.
Researching things that may improve the quality of my life is not my hobby Lorainne - it is my life, and it will continue to be my life in the years ahead.
You say to me: Please let this forum get back to what all of us want it to be. Who is "us" .... the surgical part of the forum? I would say this - there is another part of the forum - the non surgical section. And I implore others to let it exist without undue assault - that we may also have a place for support. Again - we do not see those from the non surgical section assaulting the surgical section on a routine basis. We do see those from the surgical section assaulting the non-surgical section on a routine basis. And again, this has been going on long before I became a member.
Conflict is uncomfortable for all. I am not the source of the conflict. I do have a great need to learn about that which may improve the quality of my life in the years to come. And it is not in my nature to shut up and sit down when told to do so in so many words. I cannot apologize for that.
Those who do not like what I have to say - well, that is why the Ignore Feature was invented ... ignore me - that should solve the "problem." But please do not ask me to sit down and shut up - I have too much to learn about how to improve the quality of my life in the future and I hope those like me, who have left the forum because it is too difficult to do so amid the conflict - will eventually come back that we may help each other through this process.
Sincerely - Maxene
p.s. Please do not pity me because I do not see exactly as you see, no more than I pity those who cannot see beneath the surface of some things. But rather - let us seek and find the relief we all need.
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