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Same here Melissa. Our thoughts are always with you...
Ed
49 yr old male, now 63, the new 64...
Pre surgery curves T70,L70
ALIF/PSA T2-Pelvis 01/29/08, 01/31/08 7" pelvic anchors BMP
Dr Brett Menmuir St Marys Hospital Reno,Nevada
I have a question. My husband has PSTD and has a very hard time being confined.He panicked during the CT scan. He is, also, not dealing with the waiting very well of the next ten days. Any ideas on what he could take to help him deal with the next ten days? Also, whom should he speak to about the PSTD issues he may have with pre-op and the hospital stay?
The stress you and your family have been under for a long time, has been enormous. You've survived some of the worst things life can throw at you and you'll survive the next 10 days. I don't know how, but you will, I have faith in you. Your husband may make it impossible to support him, but if he lets you, my suggestion is to offer your support at this time, because he's going through a terrible fear now, similar to what you've felt facing major surgery in the past. This might be the best way to get through the next 10 days. If not, the best you can do is try to keep the home calm and give him his space. How are you children coping? Is your daughter being supportive?
Surgery March 3, 2009 at almost 58, now 63.
Dr. Askin, Brisbane, Australia
T4-Pelvis, Posterior only
Osteotomies and Laminectomies
Was 68 degrees, now 22 and pain free
Melissa,
My heart goes out to you. All of this has been so hard on your family. Sometimes there just isn't any words.
T10-pelvis fusion 12/08
C5,6,7 fusion 9/10
T2--T10 fusion 2/11
C 4-5 fusion 11/14
Right scapulectomy 6/15
Right pectoralis major muscle transfer to scapula
To replace the action of Serratus Anterior muscle 3/16
Broken neck 9/28/2018
Emergency surgery posterior fusion C4- T3
Repeated 11/2018 because rods pulled apart added T2 fusion
Removal of partial right thoracic hardware 1/2020
Removal and replacement of C4-T10 hardware with C7 and T 1
Osteotomy
The stress you and your family have been under for a long time, has been enormous. You've survived some of the worst things life can throw at you and you'll survive the next 10 days. I don't know how, but you will, I have faith in you. Your husband may make it impossible to support him, but if he lets you, my suggestion is to offer your support at this time, because he's going through a terrible fear now, similar to what you've felt facing major surgery in the past. This might be the best way to get through the next 10 days. If not, the best you can do is try to keep the home calm and give him his space. How are you children coping? Is your daughter being supportive?
We have not told my son(17 years old) the entire truth about how bad Marc is. Yes, Thank God, my daughter is being very supportive. I will just try to get thru the next days .
dear Melissa...
the anxiety thru all of this crisis must be horrendous....
i could not make a suggestion for an anti anxiety
short term medication...i am not a doctor, of course...
but there are such meds...
do you think his doctor who diagnosed him would
help??...maybe if you called that doctor and told him what
is going on?? if your husband does not have a therapist he has been
seeing, i would think appealing to the doctor who made the
diagnosis, or to the surgeon who will operate on your husband,
would be the quickest way to get help for his anxiety....since it is 10 days, which is short term (though it may feel like forever)....the medication could be prescribed now....regardless of any other problems, this anxiety sounds situation based....
any doctor would understand it...
We have not told my son(17 years old) the entire truth about how bad Marc is. Yes, Thank God, my daughter is being very supportive. I will just try to get thru the next days .
I'm very glad to hear your daughter is supportive. It sounds like she's done a lot of growing up, Melissa.
One day at a time....
Surgery March 3, 2009 at almost 58, now 63.
Dr. Askin, Brisbane, Australia
T4-Pelvis, Posterior only
Osteotomies and Laminectomies
Was 68 degrees, now 22 and pain free
dear Melissa...
the anxiety thru all of this crisis must be horrendous....
i could not make a suggestion for an anti anxiety
short term medication...i am not a doctor, of course...
but there are such meds...
do you think his doctor who diagnosed him would
help??...maybe if you called that doctor and told him what
is going on?? if your husband does not have a therapist he has been
seeing, i would think appealing to the doctor who made the
diagnosis, or to the surgeon who will operate on your husband,
would be the quickest way to get help for his anxiety....since it is 10 days, which is short term (though it may feel like forever)....the medication could be prescribed now....regardless of any other problems, this anxiety sounds situation based....
any doctor would understand it...
thoughts and prayers for you and your family
jess
Jess,
Thanks for the suggestion. I just emailed his surgeon , who is in close running with Dr Bederman for being the best surgeon at UCI
Hi Melissa, just a note to let you know your private inbox is full.
Jen
Surgery March 3, 2009 at almost 58, now 63.
Dr. Askin, Brisbane, Australia
T4-Pelvis, Posterior only
Osteotomies and Laminectomies
Was 68 degrees, now 22 and pain free
Anxiety? It's hard to say but I don't think anxiety helps. You've travelled a harder road than most of us and you're dealing with fibro. You haven't missed a Lyrica? With everything else on your mind, it'd be understandable if you missed a pill. You could try lying on heat. I hope you were able to get some sleep and are feeling better by now.
Surgery March 3, 2009 at almost 58, now 63.
Dr. Askin, Brisbane, Australia
T4-Pelvis, Posterior only
Osteotomies and Laminectomies
Was 68 degrees, now 22 and pain free
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