19 Year Old Male. Scoliosis Progressing.

[jrnyc]

it shocks me & saddens me that he didn't seem to care how much pain you were in afterwards, after healing should have been completed!
his name can be added to the list of other surgeons who do not want to hear any bad news from patients....
if it isn't praise coming their way, they seem to not want to be bothered...which is a disgrace!
i am also amazed at any who didn't believe you, didn't trust that you know your own body....
it should be required in med school....to teach future doctors of all specialties that their duty is to trust
the patient to know what is normal and not normal for their own bodies!
but i probably shouldn't be surprised...i've met my share of crappy doctors in my time....such a shame they
give other doctors a bad name!

i am so sorry you suffered so much because of that surgeon, but so glad you found the one you have now!
thank goodness you knew enough to not believe the first guy, that the best you could have was the pain you
were in, that he expected you to live with that and accept it! it sounds like he gave you more pain
than you started out with!

hope you heal without incident now, and you can get on with your life!

jess

[mabeckoff]

John you have found a great doctor now. You cannot keep thinking of what happened. You have to keep looking forward. By the way, what your surgeon did is
what Dr Bederman and I talked about him doing for you if he was your surgeon

Keeping you in my prayers

[Elisa]

Good to hear from you John and everything sounds as though it's going along great. I totally understand your frustration and anger as I have my own anger (more like rage) over what happened with my own son, but it's subsiding somewhat and we are moving on and you will too, when the time is right. I can't wait to see your x-rays!!

[jrnyc]

anger at what the surgeon did does not dissipate so quickly...
anger that is justified takes a while to calm down.....
i understand it completely!

jess

[titaniumed]

John

Try not to think about the past right now, concentrate on the future... positive thoughts.
You cannot change the past, its not worth worrying about something you cannot change.

Think about a pain free back.....its our goal.

Besides, you have to worry about wood. Break out that saw. LOL (remember those classic posts?)
Laughing is good, but don’t laugh too hard ok?

Congratulations!
Ed

[mabeckoff]

Elisa and Jess,

As neither of you have had surgery, you are in a different position than John and I are. You have to let go of the negatives feelings toward the first surgeon or it
is not going to work. Positive feelings going forward as Ed has stated is the best way to feel

[Elisa]

Elisa and Jess,

As neither of you have had surgery, you are in a different position than John and I are. You have to let go of the negatives feelings toward the first surgeon or it
is not going to work. Positive feelings going forward as Ed has stated is the best way to feel

I don't think anyone can tell anyone else how to feel. If John says he has a lot of anger towards his first surgeon, then I accept that's how he feels at the moment; I was acknowledging that. I can see how someone can feel angry about past issues and feel positive as well about the present and future. I am pretty sure that is what Jess meant as well but she'll have to speak for herself.

[debbei]

there's no sense wasting energy on anger towards the old surgeon. Put all of your energy into healing! You had a great surgeon this time and we all have faith that you will be fine.

Take care of yourself John,

Debbe

[rohrer01]

John, it's great to hear that you are finally doing so well. Think positive and heal. If the anger doesn't go away, do something positive with it, but later, much later. Now is your time to heal both physically and mentally. But remember you are entitiled to your own feelings, but at the same time, you are in control of what you do with them and when to express them properly. Like I said, right now is your time to heal and get to feeling great. I'm glad to know that you are okay. Enjoy the rest of your youth!

[naptown78]

So glad to hear you are doing well ...it really validates your feelings that you KNEW something wasn't right. Good luck in your recovery John.
I understand your feelings of anger and frustration toward your first surgeon. I had them too. Those feelings will go away as you recover and
go forward with your life. Your life hasn't been ruined by this, just sidetracked, and you WILL get back on course. You have shown a maturity
beyond your years in dealing with this and I have every confidence that in a short time your life will not be consumed by your back problems.

[jrnyc]

Melissa, it doesnt have to have happened with one's spine to know what a rotten doctor can do to a patient....
it has happened before to me in another situation...
it was a life and death situation...so it left some bad feelings...
and a lot of mistrust towards doctors...
i wouldn't have to be a social worker to know what Elisa just said....
she expressed it better than i did...
people's feelings take as long to resolve as they take...
there is no hurrying them..
that said, i am sure John has plenty of time and energy left to think positive thoughts about
his recovery and moving ahead with his life....
this surgeon has finally made that possible for him!

jess

[JenniferG]

Ah John, it's so good to hear you sounding so positive and feeling so much better this time. I think it's healthy and normal to be angry when such a grave injustice is done to us, but also healthy and normal to get over it in time. Right now, I don't blame you for your anger. I think your bitter experience has made you stand up for yourself, push for your rights, and find a way to fix it. You didn't lie down and accept Cheng's advice, you fought back. Even I, from this great distance, have felt anger about how you (and others here) have been treated by their surgeons. But Elisa, Jess and others have said it way better than me, and now is the time to heal, not overdo, take it slowly, no matter how good you feel, and the day will soon come that gratitude will rule your life (as it does mine) as opposed to anger. Life is full of these learning experiences and I think you've handled this one very well for your youthfulness. Your family should be very proud. All credit goes to your new surgeon for turning things around for you. Are you intending naming him?

Wishing you a smooth recovery and a lifetime of not having any further problems with your back.

[JDM555]

He's a private practice, small surgeon here in NorCal. I'm almost 100% sure no one would know him, but if you're in the area and are interested, feel free to PM me.

I hate this part of recovery, the chills and upset stomachs. I'm glad I can walk and all. My left leg is a little sore, hopefully it goes away. I managed to get X-Rays of the 2 surgeries. 2 X-Rays with hardware removal and 1 X-Ray with new hardware. I only have the crappy cell phone pictures, so idk how I'm going to make it work.

Thanks for all the kind words guys, I'm really happy with the results. I hope I recover instantly so I can do whatever without pain or discomfort.

[mabeckoff]

He's a private practice, small surgeon here in NorCal. I'm almost 100% sure no one would know him, but if you're in the area and are interested, feel free to PM me.

I hate this part of recovery, the chills and upset stomachs. I'm glad I can walk and all. My left leg is a little sore, hopefully it goes away. I managed to get X-Rays of the 2 surgeries. 2 X-Rays with hardware removal and 1 X-Ray with new hardware. I only have the crappy cell phone pictures, so idk how I'm going to make it work.

Thanks for all the kind words guys, I'm really happy with the results. I hope I recover instantly so I can do whatever without pain or discomfort.

I am so glad that you are doing so well.You have been and will continue to be in my prayers

[jrnyc]

i hope you recover instantly, too, John...
but i guess a little longer period of time is to be expected....
i understand your eagerness to get back to your life...or a newer
pain free version of it...i hope this surgery opens up all kinds
of possiblities of things you will now be able to do that you perhaps couldn't do
before....
congratulations to you for sticking with what you knew to be right for you and what you needed....
and congratulations to your surgeon....he sounds like a really special and talented doctor,
and a compassionate one as well!

jess