Kathleen,
I just want to share with you my mothers guilt many years ago when I was detected with scoliosis so perhaps you won't beat yourself up about not detecting it when there were the "signs". In 1968, when I was 12, I complained constantly that my back hurt. At that time scoliosis wasn't even a word, they called it "curvature of the spine" and school screenings were not done, etc. My parents would say, "oh it's growing pains". I would wake up in the middle of the night with pain. This went on for a while, when my mother said she would take to me to the family doctor. To this day, I still can hear the doctor's voice........ one look at my back and he said "oh boy" and then proceeded to show my mother all the unevenness in my back, my leg shorter than the other, my twisted ribs, etc. I will never forget her facial expression in the office. The guilt she felt must have been awful. Unfortuately, I was sent to the most obnoxious doctor who did nothing but send me every six months for x-rays and gave me exercises to do. Needless to say, I suffered all my life with pain on a daily basis and my self esteem was horrific. I never blamed my mother - yes did I feel sorry for myself? Obsolutely! Did I wish my sisters had it instead of me - you bet I did. Thankfully in 1981 at the age of 26 I had the surgery, nine months in a body cast, etc. but was the happiest person in the world. I was 100% pain free, got married the following year, had my amazing daughter in 1986 and prayed daily that she wouldn't have it. Well, she does but I addressed it every time she would go to her doctor. It was in her chart since birth and I would have her bend so I could check her back when she took baths (sometimes too much as I was paranoid she would have it) She actually goes for her yearly check up today with my husband. Her curve is very mild, thank you Lord!, and now she goes every year instead of every four months. I'm still anxious today until I hear from the doctor she is stable. She will be 19 in November So my point after rambling on is PLEASE DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP! My mother passed away before my daughter was diagnosed with scoliosis. I wish I had the chance to talk with her about how she dealt with it. I'm sure the guilt she had was tremendous. You did the absolute right thing by not returning to that doctor. If you feel something isn't right with any doctor, find another one. Unfortunately, my mother didn't, we both hated the doctor I had but years ago you did what they said. Today, you have to be your own doctor so to speak. I ask questions, call, etc. if I feel I didn't understand something or need further explanations. They are human and can make mistakes. Your daughter will be fine. It take a while to recover but she is so young and her spirit will return. Just keep by her side and get that smile out of her that makes you so happy. She will be smiling more and more each day and for the rest of her life as a result of your TLC. Hang in there, you will all get this with great results. Regards, LYNN
1981 Surgery with Harrington Rod; fused from T2 to L3 - Dr.Keim (at 26 years old)
2000 Partial Rod Removal
2001 Right Scapular Resection
12/07/2010 Surgical stabilization L3 through sacrum with revision harrington rod instrumentation, interbody fusion and pre-sacral fusion L5-S1 - Dr. Boachie (at 56 years old)
06/11/14 - Posterior cervical fusion C3 - T3 (Mountaineer System) due to severely arthritic joints - Dr. Patrick O'Leary (at age 59)