Hi, Mike. I'm really sorry you are struggling. You had a very rough surgery and with the seroma and all of that. Hang in there, it does get better.
My curves were a lot less than yours so I can't comment on your surgery itself, but I will say that I was the same way emotionally. I never got emotional over my pain or my "situation," but I swear I cried more (for no real reason) when on these medications than I had cried in the previous 5 years. Everything I read pointed to the drugs and the way they mess with our brains. I think once you are able to get off the drugs you will find that your emotions even out some.
The job situation definitely adds to the stress of everything. Hopefully you have a supportive family.
My post op pain was also in the same spot as my pre-surgical pain. It was mainly the muscles where my rib hump was, it wasn't bone pain. That lasted about 5 - 6 months for me. I am now 7 months post op and I can still get "tight" in that same spot, but it is not very often any more. You are 6'7", I am 5'3" and your curves were worse than mine and our ages are very different, so we are nothing the same! So, I'm not sure any of my input is helpful!
Kathy
Decompression surgery L4/L5
April 3, 2015
Twin Cities Spine Center - Dr. Joseph Perra
Fused from T11 - Sacrum anterior/posterior
June 24, 2016 - 55 years old at surgery
Twin Cities Spine Center - Dr. Joseph Perra
Before Surgery: 42 degrees lumbar, 28 degrees thoracic
After Surgery: 10 degrees lumbar, ?? Thoracic
2 inches taller