Very well said, Ed. A few major points that resonated with me as I see it:
* she is NOT in severe pain and she does not have lung, heart, or bowel compromise or a collapsed/damaged vertebrae so no need to hurry to an immediate surgery. I wonder about the doctor that recommended that. Having surgery is a major life changing experience and not one that should be made without a lot of careful thought. If somehow you could know that the curves changed minimally for the next many years and she was still not in pain, then jumping to surgery now might be a bad decision.
* the young lady needs to choose surgery if that is the final conclusion. She needs to be actively involved in the decision making.
I cannot imagine how difficult it must be for parents of teens or any age children to contemplate surgery for their child. I wish the family peace.
Susan
Adult Onset Degenerative Scoliosis @65, 25* T & 36* L w/ 11.2 cm coronal balance; T kyphosis 90*; Severe disc degen T & L stenosis
2013: T3- S1 Fusion w/ ALIF L4-S1/XLIF L2-4, PSF T4-S1 2 surgeries
2014: Hernia @ ALIF repaired; Emergency screw removal Spinal Cord Injury T4,5 sec to PJK
2015: Revision Broken Bil T & L rods and no fusion: 2 revision surgeries; hardware P. Acnes infection
2016: Ant/Lat Lumbar diskectomy w/ 4 cages + BMP + harvested bone
2018: Removal L4,5 screw