Well, it's nearly three months post-op now, and I'm doing great. I've been doing walking in the pool 20-30min a day for rehab, and am building up to light gym work. It is a fine balance between not doing enough, and doing too much! I'm not really up to doing my university work yet, the tiredness is still lingering. But the pain is decreasing!
When I read TX marinemums post about how she was feeling really grateful for the support she has been recieving, I didn't feel the same as I've been quite let down by my friends. Over summer (had surgery in december, which is the start of New Zealand summer) I saw only a couple of friends, and most of them were still around town. And, I didn't even get phone calls or text messages from them. Then the ones who did go away, when they came back didn't get in touch!
It's been getting harder lately with friends. I think when people see me out and around, they think I'm better, when I'm still recovering. I don't actually think that anyone understands how major the surgery was, or what it means to have a surgery done that the surgeon hasn't performed before. I have realised who my friends are, and they are the ones that rang me and visited over summer through the hardest times. I realise how empty words of 'I'll be there to support you' are, when you don't hear from the person more than a couple of times. Then 'I'm sorry I haven't been there more, I've been really busy'... it shows you your value when it takes too long to text. I've invited people over, and they have kind of brushed me off... which sux. These were people who I saw a couple of times a week!
It's really stink because I feel positive within myself, I am thrilled with the results of my surgery, and am really careful not to complain when I see people or make them feel uncomfortable. It is really awful that noone can understand this, and that I can't fake healthy so that people are ok. I think it's something with the younger generation in NZ, because the older people have been really supportive and caring. I just kind of feel forgotten about with my normal group of friends, because they are just getting on with their lives, and don't give me a passing thought.
Sorry for the bleat, I just find it dissapointing and feel like I have given so much to my friends, always asking them how they are, what's happening in their lives, giving random gifts or coffees. It's like that stuff that I see as nice, they see as trying too hard and they back off. I thought if I gave enough last year, that I would get some support when I needed it the most.
When I read TX marinemums post about how she was feeling really grateful for the support she has been recieving, I didn't feel the same as I've been quite let down by my friends. Over summer (had surgery in december, which is the start of New Zealand summer) I saw only a couple of friends, and most of them were still around town. And, I didn't even get phone calls or text messages from them. Then the ones who did go away, when they came back didn't get in touch!
It's been getting harder lately with friends. I think when people see me out and around, they think I'm better, when I'm still recovering. I don't actually think that anyone understands how major the surgery was, or what it means to have a surgery done that the surgeon hasn't performed before. I have realised who my friends are, and they are the ones that rang me and visited over summer through the hardest times. I realise how empty words of 'I'll be there to support you' are, when you don't hear from the person more than a couple of times. Then 'I'm sorry I haven't been there more, I've been really busy'... it shows you your value when it takes too long to text. I've invited people over, and they have kind of brushed me off... which sux. These were people who I saw a couple of times a week!
It's really stink because I feel positive within myself, I am thrilled with the results of my surgery, and am really careful not to complain when I see people or make them feel uncomfortable. It is really awful that noone can understand this, and that I can't fake healthy so that people are ok. I think it's something with the younger generation in NZ, because the older people have been really supportive and caring. I just kind of feel forgotten about with my normal group of friends, because they are just getting on with their lives, and don't give me a passing thought.
Sorry for the bleat, I just find it dissapointing and feel like I have given so much to my friends, always asking them how they are, what's happening in their lives, giving random gifts or coffees. It's like that stuff that I see as nice, they see as trying too hard and they back off. I thought if I gave enough last year, that I would get some support when I needed it the most.
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