Hi everyone,
Okay - I know this is not a Dear Diary website but for all you parents out there who's child has gone through surgery or other life changing event, how far do you go in "making allowances?" Here's my problem......
We already have a 2 1/2 year old Male German Sheppard. Very loving guy but he's attached himself to hubbie. He is too big and strong for the girls to walk and hubbie has spoilt the dog to the point where he'll only eat with him (Doug provides a Dinner AND show for the dog each night!!!!!!) My girls have always wanted a lap dog!!!! But no - when we got our dog it had to be something "Macho"! Don't get me wrong - I love German Sheppards and this boy to bits but.... I know where the girls are coming from. Something gentle to sit on your lap and cuddle up to, not something when you try to hug it it's going to knock one of your teeth out in his excitement!!!!
So.... now the problem..... Elysia had been asking me for a Pomerainian WAAYYY before surgery. I had stood my ground .... no..... No....... NO........ NOOOOOOO!!!! After she woke up from surgery - one of the first things she said was Pomeranian!!! It had all been pre-planned it looks like. Everytime my husband came to see her in hospital she would lie there looking so weak and vunerable and ask - "can I have a pomeranian" - Husband - henceforth known as Idiot - said we'll see!!!! That's it - in our house "we'll see" means yes! This went on everyday. When she came home he promised her when she gets better as we can't look after her and dog. I know why he did all this, his heart was breaking at seeing her sick and he melted.
But now.... I am furious!!! I don't want another dog - first for the obvious reasons but second - a small little dog and a big very boisterous, playful monster - I don't want a little dog getting injured even if it is in playtime and not intentional. And now he's saying "I don't want another dog - forget it". I am so angry at him because last week he even took her off to the Pet Store to have a look at the little Chihuahua's!!!
I've just gone into her room and told her enough is enough - we don't want another dog in the home and that's it. I've had to walk out leaving her sobbing in her room and feel like a real - well you know what!!!! I feel so sad and broken hearted that this promise was mad and is now being taken back. She has a whole year ahead of her with none of her weekend sports and afternoon trainging with her friends, no after school rep sport, no horse riding with her best friend and thought what the heck, give her something to spend her time with. (all the dog lovers out there will be rolling their eyes.)
What is she going to spend her time doing?? All the friends are into the same sports and activities that she could do prior to surgery. I'm very upset at the moment to the point of crying typing this... (feeling sorry for the predicament that I find myself in).
Any advice?? Other than the obvious of kick husbands %$#$%!
Thanks
Del
Okay - I know this is not a Dear Diary website but for all you parents out there who's child has gone through surgery or other life changing event, how far do you go in "making allowances?" Here's my problem......
We already have a 2 1/2 year old Male German Sheppard. Very loving guy but he's attached himself to hubbie. He is too big and strong for the girls to walk and hubbie has spoilt the dog to the point where he'll only eat with him (Doug provides a Dinner AND show for the dog each night!!!!!!) My girls have always wanted a lap dog!!!! But no - when we got our dog it had to be something "Macho"! Don't get me wrong - I love German Sheppards and this boy to bits but.... I know where the girls are coming from. Something gentle to sit on your lap and cuddle up to, not something when you try to hug it it's going to knock one of your teeth out in his excitement!!!!
So.... now the problem..... Elysia had been asking me for a Pomerainian WAAYYY before surgery. I had stood my ground .... no..... No....... NO........ NOOOOOOO!!!! After she woke up from surgery - one of the first things she said was Pomeranian!!! It had all been pre-planned it looks like. Everytime my husband came to see her in hospital she would lie there looking so weak and vunerable and ask - "can I have a pomeranian" - Husband - henceforth known as Idiot - said we'll see!!!! That's it - in our house "we'll see" means yes! This went on everyday. When she came home he promised her when she gets better as we can't look after her and dog. I know why he did all this, his heart was breaking at seeing her sick and he melted.
But now.... I am furious!!! I don't want another dog - first for the obvious reasons but second - a small little dog and a big very boisterous, playful monster - I don't want a little dog getting injured even if it is in playtime and not intentional. And now he's saying "I don't want another dog - forget it". I am so angry at him because last week he even took her off to the Pet Store to have a look at the little Chihuahua's!!!
I've just gone into her room and told her enough is enough - we don't want another dog in the home and that's it. I've had to walk out leaving her sobbing in her room and feel like a real - well you know what!!!! I feel so sad and broken hearted that this promise was mad and is now being taken back. She has a whole year ahead of her with none of her weekend sports and afternoon trainging with her friends, no after school rep sport, no horse riding with her best friend and thought what the heck, give her something to spend her time with. (all the dog lovers out there will be rolling their eyes.)
What is she going to spend her time doing?? All the friends are into the same sports and activities that she could do prior to surgery. I'm very upset at the moment to the point of crying typing this... (feeling sorry for the predicament that I find myself in).
Any advice?? Other than the obvious of kick husbands %$#$%!
Thanks
Del
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