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    hi, im a 23 year old with "mild" scoliosis, but what bothers me even more is that i have winged scapula from mild pectus excavatum. they stick out and look ugly. also my neck/ back symmetry is just off.
    I feel it takes away from my looks so much.
    is there any surgery or anything i can do??

    http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/...6108AbNGLJo2aNb

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    Im the dark haired girl

    http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/...5108AbNGLJo2aNb

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  • #2
    Do you think the rest of us are ugly?

    --Linda
    Never argue with an idiot. They always drag you down to their level, and then they beat you with experience. --Twain
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    Surgery 2/10/93 A/P fusion T4-L3
    Surgery 1/20/11 A/P fusion L2-sacrum w/pelvic fixation

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    • #3
      I don't feel ugly. I have what I guess is pretty severe scoliosis, with a forty-something degree curve in my low back-hip area. I wish I had a butt. It's hard to find pants that fit. But I only know a handful of ugly people, and they're not ugly because of how they look but because they're mean.

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      • #4
        Hi Laura

        I know what you mean about feeling ugly. I get so depressed about being crooked, but it's what God has given me to deal with and I need to respond to it in a positive way. I'm sure you are a very beautiful person. I'm learning that most people don't notice I have scoliosis unless I tell them.
        Chemist, 30

        1998- 18 degrees
        2003- 33 degrees
        2005- 37 degrees
        2006- 44 degrees
        May 2007- 47 degrees
        December 2007 - 50 degrees X-ray

        Surgery May 27, 2008
        Fused T1 to L2
        Curve corrected to 15 degrees X-ray

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        • #5
          My daughter has moderately severe scoliosis and she's very beautiful, inside and out. You should consider other people's feelings before you post such a negative heading "i feel so ugly", especially to those who are suffering from severe scoliosis, how do you think that makes them feel?

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          • #6
            My daughter has both Kyphosis and Scoliosis. Kyphosis was 71* and Scoliosis was 46* before surgery. Her shoulder blade on the left side sticks out. If you feel her back, you can feel a hook from her surgery sticking up. She has a scar running from just below her neck to past her waist line. She also has some Kyphosis in her neck which tends to make her neck lean forward. Because of her Kyphoscoliosis and surgery, she is only 4" 10 1/2 " tall. Do I think she looks ugly? Have I ever thought she was ugly. NO WAY! And I'm not just saying that because she is my daughter. Jamie has taken her journey with Kyphoscoliosis and made it a positive thing in her life. She and I run a Scoliosis support group. She goes to our Children's Hospital and visits with other kids who have had Scoli surgery or are facing Scoli surgery. She has done several reports/speeches on her back to educate people. She e-mails on a daily basis with other kids who have Scoliosis. Jamie wears her scar with pride!!! Her scar is a reminder of what she has overcome. And yes, she wears a bikini and other tops that show her scar.

            Everyone is entitled to have a bad day or two, but life with or without Scoliosis is what you make of it. My family has chosen to make the most of every day, 'cause life is too short to dwell on our little imperfections.

            Mary Lou
            Mom to Jamie age 21-diagnosed at age 12-spinal fusion 12/7/2004-fused from T3-L2; and Tracy age 19, mild Scoliosis-diagnosed at age 18.

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            • #7
              Everybody on this Earth has imperfections, I know some more than others but to me scoliosis is "back there" and luckily not as noticeable as other things. So I try to focus on other aspects of my physical appearance, just like everybody with any imperfection should. It's crazy when I read about this, as I NEVER cared about my hump before surgery and(I still have a bit) and guys sure didn't, even when I wore bikinis.
              35 y/old female from Montreal, Canada
              Diagnosed with scoliosis(double major) at age 12, wore Boston brace 4 years at least 23 hours a day-curve progressed
              Surgery age 26 for 60 degree curve in Oct. 1997 by Dr.Max Aebi-fused T5 to L2
              Surgery age 28 for a hook removal in Feb. 1999 by Dr.Max Aebi-pain free for 5 years
              Surgery age 34 in Dec.2005 for broken rod replacement, bigger screws and crosslinks added and pseudarthrosis(non union) by Dr. Jean Ouellet

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              • #8
                Laura, don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to "come on to you". You are a beautiful young lady with a great smile. There have been many studies that show that many people, especially girs and young women who have a somewhat "distorted" view of their bodies. Their "flaws" are much more obvious to them than to others. The extreme of this is called body dysmorphic disorder. NOT your problem though. Looking at your picures, I can't really see anything wrong. The first of the two pics shows a little bulge at the lateral aspect of your back next to the uppermost part of your arm, but that can be just from the way your arm is pulled back slightly. What you look like is no where near as important as who you are on the inside. Yes it's great to wear stylish clothes and look great in what you wear, but looks won't cut it for me if a person has a lousy personality. If people are judging you on your appearance, then they aren't getting to know you. Ever heard this one? "Don't judge a book by it's cover". I'm a middle aged man, and my mother spent years while I was growing up trying to lose weight and try to fit this "perceived" norm as to what she should look like. She finally said enough is enough. She eats healthy and is relatively healthy considering she is 80+ years old. She is quite obese (especially from the hips down), but she doesn't worry about what others think of her appearance. Remember that you can't change how people think (you might be able to affect it) and they are going to think what they want about you. If you keep a positive attitude and let your "inner beauty" shine, what you look like won't matter.

                So far as your scoliosis goes, I would see your doctor and see what they think and see if you should see a specialist. If at any time in the last few years you have had a chest x-ray, the severity of your scoliosis should be visible - at least as to whether further studies need to be done. If you have and nothing was said to you the odds are that it is VERY mild. Your age suggests that you are probably beyond the point where any curve will progress significantly. It's hard to tell your height from the picture, so I will throw this into the pot. If your arms, legs, fingers, and toes seem unusually long in proportion to your body, this along with the pectus excavatum, might suggest that you have what's known as Marfan's Syndrome. What is important here is that if you have it, you are at risk for problems with your aorta. Don't panic, but talk to your doctor. If there is a problem, it can be corrected. Remember to like yourself for who you are, not what you look like.
                Last edited by The Slice; 07-27-2006, 04:10 PM.

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