Hi,
I have now had two opinions and have been told by both doctors that I will need surgery. I also found out that so long as I work full-time for three months then insurance will cover me for the surgery - so that is good news.
Here's my predicament. My mind keeps going back and forth not knowing what the heck to do. First of all I am not in severe pain, I just have an achy pain from time to time. I am 42 with a 76 degree lower lumbar curvature and an upper thoracic compensatory curve of 40 degrees. I am quite fit and practice yoga every day. If I have surgery I will definitely be operated from T9 to the sacrum - maybe even more - the doc' won't know for sure till I do some more tests prior to surgery. However, I am a single mom to two wonderful little boys aged 5 and 7 - my boys need me very much. Their father is not a bad man, BUT - he doesn't have a nurturing bone in his body. Right now the kids stay overnight one night a week with him and his girlfriend - and for one night that is fine. If I have surgery my mother will help out a lot and so will some of my friends - BUT - those little boys need me in many many ways. I'm wondering - before I ask the doctor - what all of you think if I held off on having the surgery for a couple more years when my kids would be much more able for this than right now. Do you think it would be detrimental to hold off in your opinions and in your experience?
I hate having such a major surgery when I'm not even in bad pain. I also hate having surgery in the fear of what if...I know surery is pretty safe these days - BUT what if something goes wrong - my kids have no one else capable of taking care of them full-time. They need me to raise them into men. God I hate being in this situation - and I'm sorry to ask these questions - crazy questions I know that perhaps you won't be able to help me with.
If any of you have any understanding of my predicament or any experience in what could happen if I held off - I'd truly appreciate to hear from you.
God bless,
Lynette.
I have now had two opinions and have been told by both doctors that I will need surgery. I also found out that so long as I work full-time for three months then insurance will cover me for the surgery - so that is good news.
Here's my predicament. My mind keeps going back and forth not knowing what the heck to do. First of all I am not in severe pain, I just have an achy pain from time to time. I am 42 with a 76 degree lower lumbar curvature and an upper thoracic compensatory curve of 40 degrees. I am quite fit and practice yoga every day. If I have surgery I will definitely be operated from T9 to the sacrum - maybe even more - the doc' won't know for sure till I do some more tests prior to surgery. However, I am a single mom to two wonderful little boys aged 5 and 7 - my boys need me very much. Their father is not a bad man, BUT - he doesn't have a nurturing bone in his body. Right now the kids stay overnight one night a week with him and his girlfriend - and for one night that is fine. If I have surgery my mother will help out a lot and so will some of my friends - BUT - those little boys need me in many many ways. I'm wondering - before I ask the doctor - what all of you think if I held off on having the surgery for a couple more years when my kids would be much more able for this than right now. Do you think it would be detrimental to hold off in your opinions and in your experience?
I hate having such a major surgery when I'm not even in bad pain. I also hate having surgery in the fear of what if...I know surery is pretty safe these days - BUT what if something goes wrong - my kids have no one else capable of taking care of them full-time. They need me to raise them into men. God I hate being in this situation - and I'm sorry to ask these questions - crazy questions I know that perhaps you won't be able to help me with.
If any of you have any understanding of my predicament or any experience in what could happen if I held off - I'd truly appreciate to hear from you.
God bless,
Lynette.
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