Hi all,
I'm a few months out from my second surgery. It's like this constant thing on my mind, but people don't see how much it affects me. I think that people don't see how much of an issue it is because I look really good most of the time, put on my make up and look 'normal'. The truth is, that I think about it all the time, am really stressed, and wonder where my friends are when I need them.
I talk to people about it, not too much because I don't want them to get the broken record treatment, but then I don't hear from them if I fall off the face of the earth for a week or so. No-one asks how I am going spontaneously, and people don't ring me for a chat.
I try and be proactive and get together with people, but I hate it all being one sided. I wonder if when I finally have the surgery, if then people will magically appear and be supportive. But right now, I am worried about being alone for the whole thing. I put a post on my facebook page saying that I am stressed, need support beforehand, and am worried about being lonely. I don't know if they just don't know how to be supportive, or if they just don't care enough to invite me out for coffee.
I mentioned to my university friends that I was applying for impaired performance for my upcoming exam, and the first thing they said was 'why?'. But they didn't follow that up with, gosh, you must be having a hard time. And these are doctoral level psychology students, you would think that empathy would be the basic skill they have.
I feel pathetic writing this post, but did anyone else feel like this pre op? That they had a big thing going on in their lives but no-one could see how big it was until after the operation and you have a physical scar.
I'm a few months out from my second surgery. It's like this constant thing on my mind, but people don't see how much it affects me. I think that people don't see how much of an issue it is because I look really good most of the time, put on my make up and look 'normal'. The truth is, that I think about it all the time, am really stressed, and wonder where my friends are when I need them.
I talk to people about it, not too much because I don't want them to get the broken record treatment, but then I don't hear from them if I fall off the face of the earth for a week or so. No-one asks how I am going spontaneously, and people don't ring me for a chat.
I try and be proactive and get together with people, but I hate it all being one sided. I wonder if when I finally have the surgery, if then people will magically appear and be supportive. But right now, I am worried about being alone for the whole thing. I put a post on my facebook page saying that I am stressed, need support beforehand, and am worried about being lonely. I don't know if they just don't know how to be supportive, or if they just don't care enough to invite me out for coffee.
I mentioned to my university friends that I was applying for impaired performance for my upcoming exam, and the first thing they said was 'why?'. But they didn't follow that up with, gosh, you must be having a hard time. And these are doctoral level psychology students, you would think that empathy would be the basic skill they have.
I feel pathetic writing this post, but did anyone else feel like this pre op? That they had a big thing going on in their lives but no-one could see how big it was until after the operation and you have a physical scar.
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