Any help with my "back issue" would be greatly appreciated
Below are five pictures, each numbered with descriptions.
http://i1188.photobucket.com/albums/...em/bck_pic.jpg
The way the shirt "fits" in picture 4, with my arms down at my side, looking mildly roundback, though it makes me feel really lousy, I can live with. But of course, I can't go through life with my arms ALWAYS down at my side. One has to raise their arm and extend it, whether to shake a hand, open a door, reach out to turn a key, or grab something off a shelf, etc. And it's what you see in picture 5, the way my scapula sticks so far out when I raise and extend my right arm, and the way the shirt tightly "hugs" and highlights the huge protruding hump, that induces my severe repulsion, that paralyzes me, that prevents me from being able to function in the real world.
Now women's shirts come in, first, a variety in terms of looseness or tightness. And second, they come in a variety of neckline widths, from a quarter of the way between the neck and shoulders, to half way, to some go right out to the edge of the shoulders, and in each case, affording space in front of and behind the neck, where as men's shirts are all close/tight around the neck (collar shirts, crew necks, and even V necks, which give only some space in the front part, but none in the back).
newly added image: see how women have a variety of neckline widths: http://i1188.photobucket.com/albums/...ine_widths.jpg
Five years ago, members suggested I try wearing a kind of wide-neck shirt, called a scoop neck shirt, that might give me more room. I had never heard of a men's wide-neck shirt. A men's scoop neck shirt, I didn't know such thing existed. Members provided links to show me. One link displayed several MEN's scoop necks, but they were sold in Australia. Another member provided a link to Nordstrom. I was so excited! And in 2012, I found and went to a Nordstrom, expecting and hoping to be able to buy scoop neck shirts. Unfortunately, I learned that Nordstrom doesn't sell men's scoop neck shirts IN the store itself. They could be bought from Nordstrom only online and I can't buy a shirt online for a couple of reasons, the most important is that I need to be able to try on the shirt, in a fitting room, to see if it fits. So I left Nordstrom devastated, utterly crushed. (Subsequently, and with great dread and anxiety, I went to a number of clothing stores in the hope of finding men's wide neck/scoop neck shirts, but they just don't carry them.)
First, let me say, I know you are not doctors, but I welcome any comments regarding my back on what you are seeing from the pictures I posted, and I welcome any suggestions for dealing with my problem. But the most important question I hope to be answered is if you can tell me whether there are any clothing stores that sell men's scoop neck shirts actually IN their stores. (And also if any sell LOOSE-FITTING men's shirts as well). It would mean so much to me, as I am so self-conscious and utterly depressed.
(Again, if I don't reply in a timely fashion, which could mean hours or even DAYS, please forgive me as I am not always free to reply, or I'm too ill.)
Below are five pictures, each numbered with descriptions.
http://i1188.photobucket.com/albums/...em/bck_pic.jpg
The way the shirt "fits" in picture 4, with my arms down at my side, looking mildly roundback, though it makes me feel really lousy, I can live with. But of course, I can't go through life with my arms ALWAYS down at my side. One has to raise their arm and extend it, whether to shake a hand, open a door, reach out to turn a key, or grab something off a shelf, etc. And it's what you see in picture 5, the way my scapula sticks so far out when I raise and extend my right arm, and the way the shirt tightly "hugs" and highlights the huge protruding hump, that induces my severe repulsion, that paralyzes me, that prevents me from being able to function in the real world.
Now women's shirts come in, first, a variety in terms of looseness or tightness. And second, they come in a variety of neckline widths, from a quarter of the way between the neck and shoulders, to half way, to some go right out to the edge of the shoulders, and in each case, affording space in front of and behind the neck, where as men's shirts are all close/tight around the neck (collar shirts, crew necks, and even V necks, which give only some space in the front part, but none in the back).
newly added image: see how women have a variety of neckline widths: http://i1188.photobucket.com/albums/...ine_widths.jpg
Five years ago, members suggested I try wearing a kind of wide-neck shirt, called a scoop neck shirt, that might give me more room. I had never heard of a men's wide-neck shirt. A men's scoop neck shirt, I didn't know such thing existed. Members provided links to show me. One link displayed several MEN's scoop necks, but they were sold in Australia. Another member provided a link to Nordstrom. I was so excited! And in 2012, I found and went to a Nordstrom, expecting and hoping to be able to buy scoop neck shirts. Unfortunately, I learned that Nordstrom doesn't sell men's scoop neck shirts IN the store itself. They could be bought from Nordstrom only online and I can't buy a shirt online for a couple of reasons, the most important is that I need to be able to try on the shirt, in a fitting room, to see if it fits. So I left Nordstrom devastated, utterly crushed. (Subsequently, and with great dread and anxiety, I went to a number of clothing stores in the hope of finding men's wide neck/scoop neck shirts, but they just don't carry them.)
First, let me say, I know you are not doctors, but I welcome any comments regarding my back on what you are seeing from the pictures I posted, and I welcome any suggestions for dealing with my problem. But the most important question I hope to be answered is if you can tell me whether there are any clothing stores that sell men's scoop neck shirts actually IN their stores. (And also if any sell LOOSE-FITTING men's shirts as well). It would mean so much to me, as I am so self-conscious and utterly depressed.
(Again, if I don't reply in a timely fashion, which could mean hours or even DAYS, please forgive me as I am not always free to reply, or I'm too ill.)
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