My son had his fusion with Dr. Vitale last Wednesday, 6/30. He came through the surgery well, his thoracic curve was reduced from 58 to about 12 (we don't have a definite number yet). Although I was pretty well aware of how difficult and painful the recovery process would be, my son had no clue and wasn't interested in educating himself. I didn't press it, though now I think maybe I should have.
Under the best circumstances, his first response is usually to say that whatever it is is my fault and to call me an idiot. Multiply that by a hundred and you might have an idea of what it's like to be tending to him post op. We came home from the hospital yesterday. He screams at me and orders me around; he makes very little effort to do things for himself. I need to help him stand up and sit down in the exact right way. I have to bring his meds immediately with the drink he wants RIGHT NOW.
I understand that he's in pain and I want to help him get better, but I don't think I'm doing either one of us any favors by jumping whenever he says jump. He's usually nicer around my husband, but I'm the one who's home with him most of the day.
Thoughts? Advice? Sympathy? I'll take anything.
Under the best circumstances, his first response is usually to say that whatever it is is my fault and to call me an idiot. Multiply that by a hundred and you might have an idea of what it's like to be tending to him post op. We came home from the hospital yesterday. He screams at me and orders me around; he makes very little effort to do things for himself. I need to help him stand up and sit down in the exact right way. I have to bring his meds immediately with the drink he wants RIGHT NOW.
I understand that he's in pain and I want to help him get better, but I don't think I'm doing either one of us any favors by jumping whenever he says jump. He's usually nicer around my husband, but I'm the one who's home with him most of the day.
Thoughts? Advice? Sympathy? I'll take anything.
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