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JenniferG
12-14-2009, 03:07 AM
Comments in another thread made me think about this. It's Summer here and it's very hot and most of my tops/dresses have a low back. I am wearing them even though my scar shows and it's not particularly attractive. I am a little old to be telling people I got into a fight with a shark...and won! My only concern would be grossing someone out if they had a weak stomach.

Do you hide your scar?

Vali
12-14-2009, 03:20 AM
Hi Jen,
With all the xmas parties happening, i ,managed to buy maxi dresses that cover mine up, but to be honest, if some of the clothing shows the scar, i'm not fussed. I was diagnosed with malignant melanoma three times, therefore, i have a little scar on the side of my right wrist, a 6cm scar on my right forearm and a 10cm scar across my right shoulder. I think, if you feel ok with, and it doesn't bother you, why not! I think we deserve some bragging rights

Snoopy
12-14-2009, 05:56 AM
Comments in another thread made me think about this. It's Summer here and it's very hot and most of my tops/dresses have a low back. I am wearing them even though my scar shows and it's not particularly attractive. I am a little old to be telling people I got into a fight with a shark...and won! My only concern would be grossing someone out if they had a weak stomach.

Do you hide your scar?

Ha! Ha! Did you get a good laugh from our "shark attack" conversation?

As I said in the other thread, my daughter doesn't hide her scar. It's good that she is comfortable with it showing because at least three inches of the scar sticks out of the top of her shirt, so, unless she wears a collared shirt, she can't really hide all of it. Don't worry about grossing someone out. It's not your fault your scar isn't attractive or that they might have a weak stomach.

Mary Lou

Pooka1
12-14-2009, 06:08 AM
Neither of my girls care about the scar showing.

Willow wore a dress at homecoming at 2.5 weeks after her surgery that exposed her back. She didn't care.

rainbow2010
12-14-2009, 06:18 AM
My daughter used some scar reducing bandages shortly after she got home from the hospital on the top part of her scar. It did reduce the scar so that it doesn't show when she is dancing. I always let mine show and so does she. If someone was rude enough to comment on my scar, I always said it was where they put in my spine of steel. (my harrington rod is steel not titanium). I don't let scars bother me. I have 2 on my back, and I had 2 c-sections, and other minor surgeries.

Singer
12-14-2009, 06:35 AM
I love my scars....I earned them. They're a great conversation starter for people who are curious and/or nosy enough to ask about them.

tonibunny
12-14-2009, 06:55 AM
I absolutely agree with Singer :D I love my scars, they look cool and I earned them! I have a lot of them (an anterior release scar running round either side, posterior midline scar all the way down from the nape of my neck to an inch above my bum, hip scars from bone graft, plus lots of little scars from laparoscopic surgery and chest drains etc) but they look great. I'm happy to wear a bikini on a beach, no probs.

jillw
12-14-2009, 10:23 AM
I don't have first hand experience, but as far as a spectator is concerned (when you say you don't want to gross them out), I wouldn't worry about it. If my daughter ends up needing surgery, I would tell her to be proud of her scars....people who go through life without scars haven't lived.

My only thought is that your surgery was in March and I have been told by doctors that the best way to reduce the amount of scars long term is to eliminate sun exposure for 1 year following. You are a good 9 months out, but if you have concerns about what the scars will look like long term, you might want to keep them covered up this summer. If you don't care about that aspect, however, wear your comfortable light clothes and wear those "battle scars" with pride!

lapieper
12-14-2009, 11:09 AM
I am proud of my scar. I earned any looks or comments it might bring. And you never know, it may help someone decide whether to have the surgery or not. It is a battle scar, and one I'm proud to have won!

debbei
12-14-2009, 01:57 PM
Funny you ask Jen, I wore a top today with a scoop in the front and back. Usually when I wear this top, I wear my hair down, but today I put it up in a pony tail. I looked behind me with a mirror and a few inches of the scar show over the top. I don't care what anyone thinks. I don't go to any lengths to hide it, and if someone gets grossed out, I really don't care. :)

JDM555
12-14-2009, 03:11 PM
Hey hey hey! That shark fight and "I won" bit is mine! Lol I will joke about my scar and use it as conversation starters with girls a the pool or something.

JenniferG
12-14-2009, 03:12 PM
This is why I love you guys! Thank you!

JenniferG
12-14-2009, 03:15 PM
Yes JDM! Thanks for the laugh!

PNUTTRO
12-14-2009, 04:21 PM
I never see my scars. I forget they are there.

titaniumed
12-14-2009, 06:25 PM
Jen

The "shark attack" story isn't all that believable unless you dive.Try using "crocodile attack". After all, they are in Australia. Just say he had one tooth. LOL

The story has to fit with the geographical location. Now Tonibunny up in England might have to be extra creative and use something like " I was fencing with James Bond and I ended up with a few small cuts, btw, he lost"

(Are there any predators left in England?) ????

For those in Canada, bear, wolf, or wolverine attack sounds plausible.

I did use the shark attack story but now with all the portals from my shoulder and gall bladder surgeries, I just say that I was out hunting with Dick Cheney.
(That's an American joke)

John, Unless you are a diver, the shark attack story wont work. Try using "bear attack at Tahoe". Tell the girls, that you poked him in the eye and barely survived. (try not to laugh) Black bear populations on west shore are increasing quite a bit and I have seen a few recently in Tahoma, Ca. They want McDonalds.

Ed

I whip out my scars whenever possible. LOL Its a ton of fun. You just have to have the right story.

tonibunny
12-14-2009, 06:48 PM
Jen

The story has to fit with the geographical location. Now Tonibunny up in England might have to be extra creative and use something like " I was fencing with James Bond and I ended up with a few small cuts, btw, he lost"

(Are there any predators left in England?) ????



LOVE IT :D There aren't any predators left in England, so the English have been making them up. From time to time we get a shadowy photo of an extra-large domestic cat turn up in the newspapers, and people will claim that it is the offspring of zoo jaguars which escaped in the 1970s and it will get called the "Beast Of Bodmin Moor" or whatever. It's a good thing my Monty is a housecat or he would be causing rumours all over East London :)

titaniumed
12-14-2009, 07:38 PM
Tonibunny

I could understand that. A few pints, and a little fog, and domestic cats suddenly become "Godzilla"
Ive had it happen to me. LOL

Not the cat, my dates.

Ed

JDM555
12-14-2009, 07:49 PM
Jen

The "shark attack" story isn't all that believable unless you dive.Try using "crocodile attack". After all, they are in Australia. Just say he had one tooth. LOL

John, Unless you are a diver, the shark attack story wont work. Try using "bear attack at Tahoe". Tell the girls, that you poked him in the eye and barely survived. (try not to laugh) Black bear populations on west shore are increasing quite a bit and I have seen a few recently in Tahoma, Ca. They want McDonalds.

Ed

No, a shark attack would work for me. I live near Santa Cruz and it's known for Great White Sharks. It can easily work in CA, we are all on the beach. I go surfing too, so it can work. Tahoe is a good 5 hours away and I rarely go, let alone see a bear that would attack me lol, but that might work too cause it's known for bears breaking into cabins.

No crocodiles near me at all.

asha
12-14-2009, 08:53 PM
Does anyone remember the girl who had a zipper tab tatooed at the top of her scar? Pretty funny

mixasu
12-14-2009, 09:01 PM
I still have a few weeks before my surgery. Is the scar that bad or does it blend in with the indent in your back?

Either way, I can't wait to have that scar and not have my ribs sticking out !! Wearing open back shirts to the clubs and bikinis to the beach w/o being embarrassed of being twisted sounds good to me :)

LynnMarie74
12-14-2009, 09:44 PM
Howdy all! It's been awhile since I posted on here. It's been 11 month as of today, that I had my surgery! Cant believe how time has flown by!!

In regards to the scar question Jennifer, I could care less about mine. It's actually is pretty thin and fairly light in color.Whoever sewed me up did a pretty damn good job I must say! lol I have not tried to hide it at all, and like Chris said, it's a conversation starter! Im proud of it too actually!! :D I look at it, and think about what I went thru and where Im at now, and it truly amazes me!

Well, I hope everyone here is doing well. Sorry Ive been non exsistant these days! I will try to make an effort to check in more and see how everyone is doing!!

Best wishes!!

Lynn

Hannamom
12-14-2009, 09:52 PM
Jennifer

My 13 year old daughter thinks her scar is "totally cool". My husband says her back is so flat and straight...he could filet a fish on it!!

Hannamom

JenniferG
12-14-2009, 11:27 PM
Good to see you here again Lynn!

My scar is still purplish and has sunk inwards slightly since this pic was taken.

http://i463.photobucket.com/albums/qq356/topsi_photos/scolicropped.jpg

It's not attractive but I'm not bothered by it. It was hard-earned and I got a wonderful outcome from it so I am not complaining! After seeing that we are all in agreement about this, I too, will wear mine with pride!

Vali
12-15-2009, 06:32 AM
Hi Jen,

I think its still early days to comment on your scar. I think it looks good, your surgeon did a good job. By the way I found out that our surgeons did their Fellowship at the same place in Nottingham. (I was told this ages ago, so i hope i have the story right!). My melanoma specialist commented on 'what a nice piece of work' my scar was and how it was the best looking scar she had seen in a long time. I say, be proud of it!

I nearly forgot, to help the purpleish tinge go away, try Kosmea Rosehip Oil or Bio-oil.

JenniferG
12-15-2009, 02:31 PM
I think my daughter has some Bio Oil left over from her pregnancy. I will see if she's still got it.

I remember reading that about Dr. Askin somewhere, Vali - Google I think.

Are you sending your surgeon a Christmas Card? I stopped sending cards three years ago, but I think I will make an exception for Dr. Askin.

asccbodypro
12-15-2009, 03:05 PM
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I would say absolutely not without a second thought. You have overcome great emotional and physical pain. That only empowers you! Wear that scare proudly because there are many who could not endure what we ahve been through! Shine!

spinalfusion09
12-15-2009, 04:00 PM
I wouldn't hide my scar. Of course right after surgery its not gorgeous. I'm still astounded and thankful that cosmetically my scar looks incredible and not like a zipper. And there's a story behind it so I would I want to cover it up? JDM555 I went to UC Santa Cruz for a year haha but I tranferred. Its so pretty up there!! :} :}

Bionic Woman
12-15-2009, 08:01 PM
I don't hide any of my scars. I've had 5 surgeries between both knees, 1 of which is a replacement. They just don't bother me. I figure if that's all someone else has to do, is make comments about someone elses scars, they have way too much time on their hands;)

Deb