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nzgirl
08-03-2008, 04:43 PM
So, this is a little unrelated to the forum here, but I consider you guys all as my friends...
I am now engaged, to my wonderful boyfriend! He supported me all through the amazingly tough time I have had over the past few years with my scoliosis, and also the surgery. I knew he was in it for the long haul when he had to do some of the more unpleasant nursing tasks that were on offer once I got home (no, I'll never tell!). So I just wanted to share this exciting news with you all. To save relaying a long story, I have cut and pasted an email I sent to one of my friends on the site... sorry Roseanne you'll get a re-cap!

Yesterday he took me for a trip to Tawharanui, ( a beautiful national park which is beach and bush, and our favorite place in NZ) to our favorite spot on a little bridge that is covered by pohutukawa trees and peeks out to sea, and proposed. Of course he already knew what the answer would be :-) He asked me if I would do it without a ring (which of course I would have), but he had smuggled one in without me knowing. The funny thing was, I had kind of noticed that he was just slightly different to normal, and wondered if he was going to do it... and even on the way up in the car said "would you be nervous when you were going to ask me.." so he was like... "er, a little" giving nothing away! I wasn't trying to fish for info, but I was kind of thinking oh wouldn't it be nice, but then didn't want to set myself up for a let down!

He had champagne in the car on ice waiting, so we went to the road that you see on the way in and have a view out to Kauwau Island (where we have been on the boat lots of times) and over towards Tawharanui, and then into Kauwau Bay, and had some champagne there.

So, sorry if anyone didn't really want to know about this on a scoli site, but I am so thrilled to share it with my friends here.

Qikdraw
08-03-2008, 05:01 PM
Thats great news! Congratulations! Have you set any dates yet or are you still in the afterglow? :)

Brad

Susie*Bee
08-03-2008, 06:02 PM
NZ-- I'm ecstatic for you! I'm so glad you shared your big news with all of us. It sounds like you had a nice, meaningful and romantic day out. ;) Do keep us posted of your plans. :D Big hugs, Susie

debbei
08-03-2008, 08:03 PM
Congratulations to you both! What wonderful news. I am happy for you.

nzgirl
08-03-2008, 08:25 PM
Nope, no date yet but I'm hoping that it will be within the next two years. I have a busy schedule being a doctoral student, so the best time would be summer 2010, but don't know if I can wait that long! I'm thrilled I'll have a straight back for the wedding, and my hair will be long enough to cover my scar by then too!

vndy
08-04-2008, 09:25 PM
I'm SO happy for you! Congratulations to you and Brian :)

Qikdraw
08-04-2008, 10:07 PM
Nope, no date yet but I'm hoping that it will be within the next two years. I have a busy schedule being a doctoral student,

Wow! A doctorial student? What are you studying?


so the best time would be summer 2010, but don't know if I can wait that long! I'm thrilled I'll have a straight back for the wedding,

It is hard to wait until marriage specially after a romantic outing like that. However it is good that you'll have a straight back!


and my hair will be long enough to cover my scar by then too!

I'm confused... You're getting married nude? :p

Brad

nzgirl
08-05-2008, 01:03 AM
Thanks all for your kind wishes,... in answer to your Q's Brad, I'm studying clinical psychology, hoping to specialize in Neuropsychology (maybe). No, not getting married nude, although there's a novel idea. It's amazing how many of the dresses are backless or really low at the back, so I was thinking a little less bride-of-frankenstien and more bombshell would be nice ;-)

Qikdraw
08-05-2008, 04:51 AM
Thanks all for your kind wishes,... in answer to your Q's Brad, I'm studying clinical psychology, hoping to specialize in Neuropsychology (maybe).

Wow. Impressive. My doctor wanted me to see a psychologist for awhile when I was 13. What tipped that off was me running out of a hospital cause they wanted to stick more needles in me. I always thought that running away from pain is a sign of sanity. lol


No, not getting married nude, although there's a novel idea. It's amazing how many of the dresses are backless or really low at the back, so I was thinking a little less bride-of-frankenstien and more bombshell would be nice ;-)

Yes that would be nice! I'm sure you'll be a beautiful, straight, bride! Whenever that might be. :)

Brad

rainbow2010
08-05-2008, 06:58 AM
There are products out on the market that will reduce the appearance of your scar. My daughter is a dancer and the top of her scar shows above her leotards. We got a scar product that was like a bandage and used it on the upper half of her scar. It worked very well. Her scar is hardly noticable where we used that.

Suzy
08-05-2008, 01:17 PM
CONGRADULATIONS!! I love to read good news on here no matter what the topic!


Mederma also works well for scars, not that I EVER cover mine up! I earned that badge of honor and use it to tell others my story. I actually have had people tell me (after seeing my scar and asking about it.) that they know someone with scoli. I give them the info about our local support group or this forum, to pass on. I "pay it forward" every chance I get. Think how much this forum has helped you, don't others deserve to hear from you about your story and this site? Be proud of your scar, you earned the right to do so. Best wishes.

Ginger W.
08-05-2008, 01:24 PM
Dear NZ,

I think your news flash has EVERYTHING to do with scoliosis! The truth is, we CAN go through these enormous surgeries and move forward in our lives. People adore us, and our surgeries only further define us as amazing people who can pass through life's storms and get to the other side as stronger, more attractive individuals.

Thanks for sharing!

ladare
08-05-2008, 05:24 PM
Congratulations NZgirl! Sounds like you have found a very good man!!!There's nothing like post-surgery nursing to find out how supportive your partner will be in tough times - my husband of five years was a GEM. You have so much to look forward to!!! The other side of recovery, finishing school and marriage! I'm thinking these next few years are going to be mighty busy for you!!! All goodness though!

Wishing
08-06-2008, 03:12 PM
Congratulations NZgirl, Your news has everything to do with this scoliosis forum. It is wonderful to let others know that you can have scoliosis, survive a difficult surgery and continue to have a full life. Your husband to be has been tried and tested and has passed with flying colors. I'm sure you'll have a wonderful life ahead and together will be able to deal with whatever life brings.

nzgirl
08-08-2008, 10:35 PM
That's good advice about the scar cover up stuff. I have some Mederma that I was applying (or rather, the BF was applying), and also some snail extract stuff, but I just stopped at one point. I think I would go for the tape that covers it completely. When the time comes, I'll put a post up asking for products. I haven't seen anything here in New Zealand that covers scars, so I might be importing some!

Still loving the champagne :)

Debra JGL
08-09-2008, 02:57 PM
NZ,
What a romantic day! Congratulations! Now you will know how lovely you will look in your dress and thoughts of having scoli. surgery are behind you. And you've had a great test of a mate to know he will stick with you through thick and thin.

Best of luck,
Debra