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briarrose
01-23-2008, 08:39 PM
Today I had an appointment with my surgeon about my MRI. He said my MRI looked normal for someone with scoliosis, so that was good. He also gave me the opportunity to ask questions about surgery. He answered all of them completely and honestly and was very kind. If you have read any of my previous posts, you know that I really like my doctor. He is by far the nicest and most caring doctor I have ever had. Today just confirmed in my mind (and my mom's) that I want him to do my surgery. My husband still wants me to get a second opinion just to see what someone else says. I don't really want to because I feel like it will just make me confused again. What if the second doctor says I don't need surgery? What do I do then?

What would you do?

Thanks!

Shell

vndy
01-23-2008, 08:47 PM
Shell,

I had a similar experience - The first doc I saw I knew was the best and the best for me. I still went for a second opinion. This 2nd doctor was AWFUL. He tried to get me to say that I WANTED surgery for cosmetic reasons (keep in mind no one could tell I was crooked with clothes on!). He told me scoliosis didn't cause pain (infuriating!). He was disrespectful and rude, and lectured my mother and I for over an hour. He told me that if he did the surgery, he wouldn't be held responsible for an outcome I wasn't happy with, like pain, or any of the risks we hear about. It was an AWFUL experience.

Even though it seemed like he was telling me not to have surgery, he said that he would do the surgery, and any qualified surgeon I saw would do the surgery.

As terrible as the experience was, he confirmed that I needed surgery, that any good doctor would agree, AND that I was picking the right surgeon.

What ever you choose, be as confident as you can in your decision, and do whatever you can to boost that confidence. Good luck.

LindaRacine
01-23-2008, 08:47 PM
Wow, Shell, your xray is really making you look really unbalanced. I think unbalanced curves are much more likely to progress than balanced ones.

I do think it's a good idea to get a second opinion. If the second surgeon says you don't need surgery, that would be a good thing. No? Scoliosis surgery can be a really huge event that could change your life (either in a good or bad way). Taking a few extra steps to be certain you're doing the right thing seems like an intelligent thing to do.

Good luck!

--Linda

briarrose
01-24-2008, 04:39 PM
Thank you both for your replies. I decided to just go and get the second opinion. I guess I really want to have the surgery done because I'm really tired of being in so much pain. I know it may not help the pain, but it will stop the progression which will increase my pain. Thanks again!

skoshi314
01-24-2008, 04:51 PM
briarrose,
I've been on the fence about the second opinion, too. I think I've finally resolved in my own mind that I will have the surgery and I'm afraid getting a second opinion will just muddy the water. I grew up hearing that you should ALWAYS get a second opinion before having surgery and I guess a lifetime of conditioning is hard to shake. I know I trust my doc and I've done the research and truly feel he is right for me, so I probably won't opt for a second. That being said, I'm 45 and compared to you being 20 years younger than I, I think I'd get the second as well. My 'window of opportunity' is not a big as yours.

Best of luck in your decision! I'll keep think good, happy thoughts for you!

crepehanger
01-24-2008, 05:18 PM
Shell, I don't think a second opinion would hurt. I am in the same boat that Becky was in, I did not get a second opinion. My age factored in too, as did the pain, which almost drove me crazy. We all flipped back and forth, as we made our decisions, talking ourselves in and out of it, and letting others scare us silly. But, YOU will know which was to go. Trust yourself, sweetie. Best wishes..

skoshi314
01-24-2008, 08:08 PM
Lisa is so right-TRUST YOURSELF! Hmmmmm, maybe I should follow that advice myself! :eek:

geo
01-25-2008, 12:14 PM
I'll chime in and say that I, too, think you should go for that second opinion! I had to go out of state for mine, and it was to a doctor that's been doing this for decades so I think I was scared that he would say surgery wasn't necessary, while in my mind I'd convinced myself it was. But, he advised surgery, and I found exactly the right doctor for me, and a hospital that did everything right.

Looking at your x-ray, it's hard to believe a surgeon would tell you surgery isn't necessary, atleast at some point in your life. You should get another opinion to ease your husband's mind, and in turn, you will hopefully get confirmation that you are on the right track.

briarrose
01-25-2008, 04:17 PM
Thank you skoshi, crepehanger and geo for your responses. You are all right. A second opinion is a wise thing to do even if I end up hearing what I don't want to hear. I made the appointment today for March 11. I guess until then, I'll just plan on having surgery in May. It's nice to know that other people are thinking the same things I am. I worry so much and I know I shouldn't.

Again, thank you all. You've helped put my mind at ease!