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ca-native
01-10-2008, 12:10 AM
Hello Everyone,

My daughterís surgery is scheduled for March 17 and I am trying to gauge how long she will be out of school. The doctor says kids typically rebound pretty fast after surgery and that most can go back to school three weeks after surgery. However, Iíve talked to a couple of parents and they said their kids did return to school after three weeks, but it was only for one class and gradually their children built up their school time over subsequent weeks. One parent said it took eight weeks for her daughter to return to her full time school schedule, the other parent said 10 weeks.

So here are my questions: How long was your child out of school and when they did return, was it for a full day? If your child returned to school on a partial schedule how long did it take for him/her to be able to last the full school day?

Also, I know many surgeries are done in summer when school is out, so my question to those parents is: How many weeks after surgery was it before your child felt like he/she could return to their normal daily routine?

Thank you!

Snoopy
01-10-2008, 07:17 AM
Hi Elaine,

My daughter's doctor told her she could go back to school 1/2 days at 3 1/2 weeks post-op. However, since that was the start of Christmas break, she didn't return until she was about 4 1/2 weeks post-op. By 6 weeks, she was back in school full time. Jamie was off all prescription pain meds within two weeks after surgery. Please know that Jamie has a very high tolerance for pain and she wanted to miss as little school as possible. I was very comfortable sending her back to school when we did.

Some kids just aren't ready to go back to school for a long time. Don't be surprised if she needs pain meds for a while. Trust your instincts. You know your child best and you'll know when she is ready to go back. Good luck.

Mary Lou

scoliboymom
01-10-2008, 08:55 AM
My son's doctor said 6-8 weeks. From May 16 that got us into the summer break. I know he could have gone back for short, say 1 hour, stints at 3-4 weeks. But he couldn't have done it without taking a pillow with him to lean against and he would have been mortified to be seen with a pillow at school. He was doing school work at home and even wrote a couple exams at home and at about 5 weeks went into school to write a couple of his shorter exams (without a pillow but it was hard). When he went back to school in September at 3 1/2 months the first couple full days really exhausted him and he commented that he didn't know how people could go back to school just a few weeks after surgery when he felt this way 3 months later. He did quickly get his stamina back though. The other thing he found hard was the bus ride especially the bumpy country roads so I drove him to and from school until he was about 6 months post op. Hope this helps and good luck.
Ramona

LorDon
01-10-2008, 09:33 AM
Scoliboymom,
I laughed at your comment about Patrick being mortified to be seen with a pillow in school. My son is the same way! Not in a million years would he consider bringing one. He'd rather suffer in silence!

Elaine,
Our surgeon said 4-6 weeks. Chris is currently 4 weeks post op and although he is completely off pain meds and is feeling good, I don't think he is ready to return to school yet. Not even part time. His tutor was here yesterday for 2 hours and he was completely exhausted when she left. His stamina hasn't completely returned. After walking around a store for about 30 minutes he wanted to leave because he was tired and his back hurt. Everybody is different though. However, I must admit, Chris is in no hurry to return to school and has told us that he plans on milking it ;) As long as he is keeping up with his school work, I don't plan on rushing him back. It's a huge surgery and these kids go through a lot. Of course, I am a stay at home Mom too so that is also a factor. I don't have to rush back to work. Like Mary Lou said, trust your instincts.

Best of luck to you. Keep us posted!

flowerpower
01-10-2008, 11:04 AM
Lori,

Ditto here - I had to laugh at your comment too because I had those exact thoughts reading Ramona's post...

Elaine,

Like the others said, it varies from kid to kid. My son returned to school about 4 1/2 weeks post-op. He was off all pain meds except for an occasional tylenol. The first day he only lasted an hour or two (I think too much unwanted attention) from then on he went back full days, even staying after for chess club and academic team. I was really surprised, but I know he pushed himself in part because he wanted to keep up with academics and try to get back to as normal a routine as possible. He would come home exhausted though, and would take a good 2-3 hour nap when he got home.

There is a woman I talk to who's daughter had surgery Dec. 12th. Just this past week she has tried returning to school, going to 1 or 2 classes a day. It has been a bit much for her so she may stay home the next couple of days and try a full day next week.

Renee

Karen40
02-26-2008, 08:45 AM
My daughter's surgery was on Dec 5, 2007 and she was back to school full time on Jan 7, 2008, right after winter break.

She did take a pillow to school and she still does have it there and uses it every day for comfort. I offered to buy her a better chair (the kind she has to sit in has the back support in an area that bothers her rib hump) but she thought a special chair would be more embarrassing than a pillow.

She's in Grade 7. If she was in high school, I can imagine she wouldn't want to take the pillow either.

samsmom
02-26-2008, 02:54 PM
Hello Everyone,

My daughterís surgery is scheduled for March 17 and I am trying to gauge how long she will be out of school. The doctor says kids typically rebound pretty fast after surgery and that most can go back to school three weeks after surgery. However, Iíve talked to a couple of parents and they said their kids did return to school after three weeks, but it was only for one class and gradually their children built up their school time over subsequent weeks. One parent said it took eight weeks for her daughter to return to her full time school schedule, the other parent said 10 weeks.

So here are my questions: How long was your child out of school and when they did return, was it for a full day? If your child returned to school on a partial schedule how long did it take for him/her to be able to last the full school day?

Also, I know many surgeries are done in summer when school is out, so my question to those parents is: How many weeks after surgery was it before your child felt like he/she could return to their normal daily routine?

Thank you!

Hi,
My daughter's surgery was 2/5 and she is just getting to the point at 3 weeks post op where she is ready to start with her tutors at home. She is only taking meds a couple of times a day, but I would imagine that she will not be ready to go back till 5 or 6 weeks post op. Even if they are not in much pain, they are still exhausted from the procedure. I will probably have her start on half days. Doctor also suggested starting her on a Wednesday so she doesn't have to go a full week at first.

- Michele

txmarinemom
02-27-2008, 03:12 AM
And *I'm" laughing at the pilllow issues because I wish like hell I'd carried one to my post op visit yesterday - LOL. (I won't be making that mistake again, and yes ... I understand teen hesitance. I'm old though - LOL ... I can be different and really not give a ^*%& ;-).

WHY is it that back surgeon's waiting rooms are ONLY filled with solid wooden backed chairs??? (OMG, I was worn out from leaning forward to keep from touching the chair back ... my hardware is riiiiiiiiiiiiight there under the skin).

More than anything, I wished I'd had it cab ride!

trulyaries
02-27-2008, 01:26 PM
Pam:
Sorry I cut you off from our phone call yesterday. You were telling me about the wooden chairs, and I didn't get a chance to tell you my pet peeve. To get to my surgeon's office, I park in handicapped parking, then cross an access road, then walk through a courtyard and into a large office building, then take the elevator to the 10th floor to finally get to his office. Every time I go there I ponder why a doctor who treats people with back problems would choose such a location?! Fortunately, he does have comfortable chairs and I never have to wait long once I get there. Good thing I like the guy! :p

Aussiemum
02-27-2008, 03:50 PM
Hi Elaine,

Elysia is two weeks post-op and if I could trust the kids at school not to bump or push her or touch her back then I feel she could return to school for 1/2 days. There is no way I will return her though until we see our Surgeon on 31st March for the all clear with the fusion. I personally don't think it's worth the risk - so long as they are happy to keep up with the majority of the school work at home and you can get the time off work to care for them (and tutor - ahhhh teachers should be paid more! We get zero home help here in Australia from the schools so it has to be the parents).

Also although not in much pain at all - Yesterday Elysia wanted to go shopping for her B'day - after 30 minutes she had to sit down and have a rest - after another 30 minutes she said "Let's go". That's a big thing for a girl who just "LOVES SHOPPING". I carried the pillow around for her in bag and walked behind so no-one would bump or touch her back!!! Maybe I should have walked in front with a basket of rose petals that I scattered on the ground for her to walk on as she paraded through the stores! Might as well as she's getting treated like a princess!!!! One of her friends who came for dinner last night brought her a Tiara as a present!!!! Oh well, what they go through - they deserve to be treated like Princesses for awhile (only awhile - don't get any ideas kid!)

Pillows - I was looking on the net prior to surgery for a suitable pillow that Elysia could use at school and I found this one www.backcarebasics.com/corflex. It is a blow up pillow (small) that slips over the back of the chair and flexes with the shape of the back. It looked good and less conspicuous (sp?) than a big bed pillow. I thought it might be ideal for school?? (Don't know without trying).

Good luck with your daughter's surgery.

xx
Del

CurvySAT05
02-28-2008, 04:57 AM
Del,
I have the bigger (blue) back pillo and absolutely LOVE it! I keep one in my desk chair at home, and one in the car (and use it at school as well). I would recommend the full size back pillo over just the lumbar roll so that it supports the whole of the lower back and not just a portion of it. I really appreciate being able to place the pillow where I need it and fill it with just the right amount of air for me (since I am definatly not made from the "normal" mold).
If Elyssa does not want to be seen carrying a pillow around school, she could put it in a little drawstring backpack and just put the backpack on the back of the chair. No one would ever know what was in it, and she would only need to take it out if she had to adjust the air in the pillo (which she could do at home, the nurses office or in the restroom if necessary).
If you have any questions about the back pillo just ask. I have had mine for a couple years, and take it everywhere with me.

Aussiemum
02-28-2008, 05:02 AM
thanks curvy - I can't get the one you guys have available in the States and am trying to track a supplier here in Aus. I'm sure I'll find one otherwise I'll contact the company in the states and see if I can purchase through paypal or something similar. Good to know that it works well!!!!

cheers
Del

Pooka1
02-28-2008, 07:28 AM
thanks curvy - I can't get the one you guys have available in the States and am trying to track a supplier here in Aus. I'm sure I'll find one otherwise I'll contact the company in the states and see if I can purchase through paypal or something similar. Good to know that it works well!!!!

cheers
Del

I would be happy to order it and send it to you. I'll order one for my daughter at the same time.

sharon

MATJESNIC
02-28-2008, 09:04 AM
Del,

Thank you for that laugh this morning. When I read your post about sprinkling rose petals for your princess, I just enjoyed that so much. These kids deserve the royal treatment. I told Nicole I am spoiling her for one full year because that is how long it takes to fully recover. I hope I can stop myself after that year is over.

I could kick myself for not knowing about that inflatable pillow when Nicole first went back. She had a regular pillow in middle school and feared one day she would be referred to as "pillow girl." But she didn't care. She wanted to be comfortable. Then after a couple of weeks, someone on Spinekids told us about the little inflatable one and it was amazing. You only put a tiny bit of air in it. We put it in a drawstring bag and she hung it over her chair. I believe it was from a different company. But what an amazing thing for our kids.

txmarinemom
02-28-2008, 11:27 AM
Pillows - I was looking on the net prior to surgery for a suitable pillow that Elysia could use at school and I found this one www.backcarebasics.com/corflex. It is a blow up pillow (small) that slips over the back of the chair and flexes with the shape of the back. It looked good and less conspicuous (sp?) than a big bed pillow. I thought it might be ideal for school?? (Don't know without trying).

Hey, Del ...

I checked out the site, and I assume this (http://www.backcarebasics.com/Corflex_Medic-Air_Back_Pillow.htm) is the one you're talking about? I think I'm ordering one today to try out!

At least that way, you can have someone in the States test drive it and avoid some shipping and handling charges ;-). Thanks for the tip ... I'm still creeped over the hardware on hard surfaces (although the bathtub is sloped enough it doesn't bother me ... for some reason *that* actually feels GOOD!).

I'll let you know how the pillow works!

Regards,
Pam

txmarinemom
02-28-2008, 11:30 AM
You people just posted 6 posts while I was writing my little one!

Nevermind ;-).

I'm still trying the pillow. So there - LOL!

samsmom
02-28-2008, 02:29 PM
Hi Elaine,

Elysia is two weeks post-op and if I could trust the kids at school not to bump or push her or touch her back then I feel she could return to school for 1/2 days. There is no way I will return her though until we see our Surgeon on 31st March for the all clear with the fusion. I personally don't think it's worth the risk - so long as they are happy to keep up with the majority of the school work at home and you can get the time off work to care for them (and tutor - ahhhh teachers should be paid more! We get zero home help here in Australia from the schools so it has to be the parents).

Also although not in much pain at all - Yesterday Elysia wanted to go shopping for her B'day - after 30 minutes she had to sit down and have a rest - after another 30 minutes she said "Let's go". That's a big thing for a girl who just "LOVES SHOPPING". I carried the pillow around for her in bag and walked behind so no-one would bump or touch her back!!! Maybe I should have walked in front with a basket of rose petals that I scattered on the ground for her to walk on as she paraded through the stores! Might as well as she's getting treated like a princess!!!! One of her friends who came for dinner last night brought her a Tiara as a present!!!! Oh well, what they go through - they deserve to be treated like Princesses for awhile (only awhile - don't get any ideas kid!)


xx
Del

Hi Aussiemom,

I too was hysterical laughing about the rose petals. We have been out and about a few times since my daughter's surgery and it is so true. I have been following her like a bodyguard...scoping out the people who look like they might be careless and bump into her and altering our route. I even gave someone the evil eye when he didn't hold the door open for her!! And yes, I too carry the pillow around. I even call her reclining chair that she is most comfortable in, "the throne". Good to see that she is recovering so well. You must be so pleased!

txmarinemom
02-28-2008, 02:44 PM
No fair, y'all ... I want rose petals and a bodyguard! LOL ;-)

Aussiemum
02-28-2008, 03:33 PM
Sharon - thanks that is so very sweet of you. I'll see how I go here in Aus and if I can't track it down I'll get back to you.

Pam - You'll get your roses and bodyguard eventually when you publish that book and they're holding back your fan base at your book signing!!!!!

Elaine - Sorry if your initial thread has a lot of raving's in it - but as you can see this forum is what keeps everyone sane both before and after surgery. It is the most wonderful group of people you could ever meet and everyone will always be there to support and offer any advice or suggestions that they can throughout your daughter's surgery. It is such a serious thing to happen to anyone or their child and you have to keep your sense of humour.
Maybe one day we should hold a Scoliosis Forum convention - how cool would that be for people to come from all over the world and meet up?? :p

Cheers
Del
xx

skoshi314
02-29-2008, 12:34 AM
Sharon - thanks that is so very sweet of you. I'll see how I go here in Aus and if I can't track it down I'll get back to you.

Pam - You'll get your roses and bodyguard eventually when you publish that book and they're holding back your fan base at your book signing!!!!!

Elaine - Sorry if your initial thread has a lot of raving's in it - but as you can see this forum is what keeps everyone sane both before and after surgery. It is the most wonderful group of people you could ever meet and everyone will always be there to support and offer any advice or suggestions that they can throughout your daughter's surgery. It is such a serious thing to happen to anyone or their child and you have to keep your sense of humour.
Maybe one day we should hold a Scoliosis Forum convention - how cool would that be for people to come from all over the world and meet up?? :p

Cheers
Del
xx

Del,
I'm all in for the Convention! It would be sooooooo amazing to be able to put faces with the names of the beautiful people here. But I do have a request: can we come stay at your house? I would LOVE to see Sydney and quite honestly, would any of you REALLY want to come to Oklahoma? Yea, didn't think so!

txmarinemom
02-29-2008, 12:45 AM
must ... resist ...

Becky ... started it ... but ...

MUST ... fight ...

urge ... to launch into ...

Oklahoma ... jokes ...

agggggggghhhhh ...

not nice ...

FUNNY ... but ...

not nice ...

(giggle!)

Aussiemum
02-29-2008, 01:37 AM
Hmmmm - not a problem Becky - but.... I just checked the members listing and there is 7,895 members - no probs I do have three Loo's! That calculates out at 10.94 seconds each, once a day - How fast can you pee?? LOL!

xx

skoshi314
02-29-2008, 02:12 PM
Pam, I'm going to deal with you first! When I was growing up, my older, yet shorter sister, was ALWAYS saying "Becky started it!!!!" so I just want to say thanks for the litle trip down memory lane! LOL! As as far as Okie jokes, weeeeelllllllllll, just don't get me started on Texas! And by the way, it's an absolutely mystery to me why every time Oklahoma makes national news for something, the networks always seem to pick the people with 3 teeth in their head to put on national TV. What's up with that?

And Del, ummmm, maybe I'll just stay in a hotel close by. Not that I don't appreciate the hospitality and all, but I typically need a little more than 10.94 seconds once a day. By the way, I totally impressed with your math skills!

ca-native
03-07-2008, 08:24 AM
Hello Everyone,

Oh my goodness, you guys are cracking me up! This is a good thing because Kim's surgery is less than two weeks away and everyday I feel myself getting more stressed so I can use the smiles. I like the "princess" comments - Kim's room is decorated in the Disney princess theme.

Her birthday is this Sunday, March 9th and she'll be 16 years old. What a crappy gift, huh? "How about some metal rods and screws for a belated birthday present? These things costs ten of thousands of dollars so ya know I love ya baby!!".

Thanks for all of your support. :)

MATJESNIC
03-07-2008, 01:20 PM
Elaine,

We're all rooting for Kim to do great. It's going to be tough on all of you. But you'll all get through it. You're not alone.

Beckymk
07-27-2008, 04:17 PM
Hello Everyone,
Her birthday is this Sunday, March 9th and she'll be 16 years old. What a crappy gift, huh? "How about some metal rods and screws for a belated birthday present? These things costs ten of thousands of dollars so ya know I love ya baby!!".

Thanks for all of your support. :)

OK, I know this is old but I laughed when I read this. I know how you felt as I'm feeling the same way. DD's birthday is March 10 and they are talking surgery in February. She was so excited because it was going to be the first birthday that she didn't have a gymnastics or cheerleading meet to attend. Instead she now gets recovery from surgery for her 15th birthday!

tillgurl
08-17-2008, 11:53 AM
I had my surgery at the beginning of summer, but if I had have been in school, I would have been back 4-5 weeks after, but not longer.
I'm only 7 weeks post-op and leave for vacation tomorrow and have to drive two days to get there.
I NEVER thought I'd be able to go on vacation but I'm feeling great!

Mary jane
01-27-2009, 09:02 PM
We are now trying to gauge the recovery time also. My 17 year old has a curve of 58, but has an autonomic illness called dysautonomia and we have ben putting off her surgery hoping she would get stronger. As it stands now she only has the stamina to go to school 2 to 3 days a week. She has been totally homebound until last January, 2008. We are so afraid this surgery will knock her back down again.
It seems many of the children I have read about here bounce back rather fast. Once the kids are back in school, do they continue to heal well and just get back to normal without complications? What about the sitting all day and carrying heavy backpacks?
I am a divorced mom and must admit I am so scared for my daughter, does any one have words of reassurance or comfort? also, any things I can have ready to help her through recovery?

Pooka1
01-27-2009, 09:25 PM
We are now trying to gauge the recovery time also. My 17 year old has a curve of 58, but has an autonomic illness called dysautonomia and we have ben putting off her surgery hoping she would get stronger. As it stands now she only has the stamina to go to school 2 to 3 days a week. She has been totally homebound until last January, 2008. We are so afraid this surgery will knock her back down again.
It seems many of the children I have read about here bounce back rather fast. Once the kids are back in school, do they continue to heal well and just get back to normal without complications? What about the sitting all day and carrying heavy backpacks?
I am a divorced mom and must admit I am so scared for my daughter, does any one have words of reassurance or comfort? also, any things I can have ready to help her through recovery?

While it's fair to say most kids recover fairly quickly, a relative few develop some complication (wound infection, etc.).

What I think might be an issue and which your surgeon should address is the need to walk during recovery. Walking seemed to be very important in my daughter's recovery. By the way, my daughter also had a 58* curve at surgery. It was moving several degrees a month at that point, too fast for any bracing, and the surgery happened none too soon.

It is likely no brace would have helped anyway because she likely has some connective tissue disorder. Her twin, who likely has the same disorder, is in a brace that is failing and will likely be told she needs surgery at her next exam in the spring.

So bottom line is you need to address the walking issue, if that is an issue, in my opinion. The recovery will go quicker the more she can walk as I understand these things.

Good luck.