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Eliza
12-04-2007, 08:31 PM
I am wondering. Know one has found out, but when I take P.E. next semester. I will have to change in front of the other girls, and then they will know that I wear my brace. Anyone been made fun of the girls you change with? I am just curious...

Geish
12-04-2007, 11:28 PM
Eliza,
Way back in the late 70's I had to wear a Milwaukee Brace. I had just started 9th grade and I was mortified to wear this horrible looking contraption. There was no way to hide the metal frame around your neck or the big metal bar coming out of the collar of your shirt. I have to tell you, not one person ever made fun of me that I was aware of. My friends stayed my friends and nothing was ever really said about the brace. I think a few people might be curious and ask a few questions, but I don't think anyone will be mean. I remember my friends wanting to know what the brace was and why I had to wear it, but that was about it. No one said a word to me when we had to change for PE and yes, I even had to wear during PE! Just remember, this too shall pass. And there is life after high school and life after your brace!

rtremb
12-05-2007, 01:38 AM
Eliza:

Is it possible to have a private place to change if you really don't want anyone to know you wear the brace?

No one has made fun of my daughter about her brace. Her school friends (and other students) ask questions about what it is and why she has to wear it. She explains and they understand she needs it. Two of her friends have chosen to do a school science project on scoliosis - they didn't know anything about it before they saw Esme in her brace. Esme has been very open about her brace and it has not been a problem for her at all at school. She is in Grade 8.

Good luck - I think if anyone makes fun about the brace they are the one with the problem - they have a lot of growing up to do.

Do you know about the Spinekids website?

Ruth

MATJESNIC
12-05-2007, 06:49 AM
Nobody ever made fun of Nicole's Spinecor. They asked questions and were curious. Nicole was very open about her scoliosis and her brace. She really felt proud to wear the brace because she felt fortunate that it was so flexible and comfortable.

nate03
12-05-2007, 08:40 AM
Just sort of think of it like a cast maybe - like nobody makes fun of kids when they break their leg or arm, so I don't think this is any different -just an idea!

WNCmom
12-05-2007, 09:27 PM
My son has worn both a Boston brace (6th grade) and a SpineCor brace (7th grade). No one ever teased him. He said his classmates were curious, and one even tried on the Boston when he was at our house. Another boy called it his "bully-proof vest!" He wore it at fiddle camp and also at summer camp, and never complained of being teased. If you are matter-of-fact about it, I think they will be, too.

Eliza
12-06-2007, 07:40 AM
Do you know about the Spinekids website?

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No, I am not really sure of what the other brces look like or how they are diffrent. But I am open to learn!

rtremb
12-06-2007, 03:58 PM
Eliza:

This is the link to the Spinekids website.

http://www.spinekids.com/messages.shtml

There are lots of messages on her about wearing a brace and lots of other stuff too. My daughter really likes this website.

This is the link to the Spinecor website:

http://www.spinecorporation.com/English/index.htm

Ruth

Eliza
12-06-2007, 05:51 PM
Ruth,

Thanks for the website info. It looks cool! I might register later.

Eliza
12-07-2007, 03:57 PM
Ruth,

I am now a member of the spinekids! Thanks for telling me about it. It seems...more for kids. I havent done much on it yet, but hopefully I will have more time tomorrow. My name is the same as on this site!

rtremb
12-07-2007, 08:24 PM
You're welcome Eliza....enjoy.

Ruth

gillste
12-10-2007, 05:29 AM
Hi My Daughter Jodie Is 6 And She Has Been Wearing Her Boston Brace For 3 Months, Her Curve Is 32 Degrees To The Right. When She First Went To School In Her Brace She Decided To Do A Show And Tell With All The Class And She Showed Her Brace And They Asked Questions, The Children Are No Longer Curious Just Over Protective In Case She Falls Over And Some Days They Fuss Around Her A Lot Which Is Nice But Jodie Sometimes Finds This Overwhelming. I Understand For You To Do This Could Be Difficult Because Of Your Age, But How About Making Some Short Notes For The Girls In Your P.e Lesson So They Know Why You Wear A Brace And Also Tell Them Not Feel Embarrassed About Asking Questions About It Because It Wont Offend You. If This Would Be Too Much For You Maybe Your Parents Could Ask The Teachers If You Could Have A Private Place To Change.
Good Luck
Gill

Eliza
12-10-2007, 06:42 AM
I know a lot of people have been asking me about a private place to change, but in my school there is only one very small room to change in. I wish there was a private place to change.

I guess when they find out they find out. When I change they will notice, but now I dont care that much. I am sure that it will all blow over in a couple of days. I am positive once they know why I wear it they wont care.

I will tell you all what happens in the end.

Thanks for the support!

Xx..Sarah..xX
12-14-2007, 05:29 PM
nobody should make fun of having a brace. i mean we didnt ask for scolisosis!! If anyone did ever make a nasty comment you shoudlnt ever let this affect you. They are obviously not a real friend and you will find out who your real friends are!! and anywho most the people you know now you wont no in ten years time!! Maybe theres somewhere you could get changed seperatly. Or if you just come out with it to everyone then everyone will get used to it. Hpe this helps. Keep strong! xxx

Eliza
12-17-2007, 07:38 PM
There is no place to change separetly. I already asked. The only problem is, who will tighten my brace? I cant do it as tight as my mom can (since it is behind my back). She wont be at school. My friends tried at my house none of them are strong enough.

Need suggestions. What do you do?

nate03
12-18-2007, 07:42 AM
I know this may be inconvenient for you but, my son went to the nurses office before and after Phys Ed. to take it off/put it on. If you wanted to, I am sure they would also let you change there - just a thought, I know there are no great options. Hopefully somebody here will help you come up with a plan that works ok for you - or some combination of suggestions that you work out!

Eliza
12-23-2007, 07:10 PM
I guess I will just change with all the other girls in my grades.

But how or who could I get to tighten my brace?

Who do you guys get to tighten your brace?

I would do it myself, but I cant tighten it since my straps are behind my back.

ShanaT
12-24-2007, 12:26 AM
When I had to take PE class in 8th grade I always changed with the other girls in the locker room, almost all of them knew about my brace so it was like it wasn't even there, it was just normal to them. And I would get my best friend who also had the class with me to help me put it back on. So hopefully you have a good friend in the class with you that can help you out.

My friends and other classmates were always really great about the brace. They didn't even pay attention to it. Of course the first time people would see it, or feel it, they would ask questions, but no one was ever mean, just curious. It does kind of freak people out if they don't know about it and they try to hug you or something haha But it's funny.
Me and my friends would always joked about my "abs of plastic"

The Slice
12-25-2007, 03:24 AM
Eliza, what about your P.E. teacher? I'm guessing that you will have a female teacher for P.E.. What about your P. E. teacher, or another staff member, or an older, bigger girl, who might have the strength to properly tighten your brace for you? Either ask for help yourself, or have one of your parents ask the school to make arrangements for someone to help you. It won't be a big problem as it only takes a short amount of time to do it. BTW, don't worry if the other kids say anything, if they do, it will most likely out of curiosity. You'll probably draw quite a bit of attention for a while, because it's likely that not many other kids have seen someone in a brace - it's a novelty. Like others have said, it's like someone getting a cast on their arm or leg, there'll be alot of questions at first, and then it will be like you've always had it.

Scoli_babii_x
01-02-2008, 12:33 PM
I was feeling exactly like you.
So, what i did was not do PE at school, as i was embarrased and instead, i go swimming once a week and do yoga and pilates once a week.
I feel much comfortable with this.
Hope i helped! xxx

Eliza
01-03-2008, 06:59 PM
Eliza, what about your P.E. teacher? I'm guessing that you will have a female teacher for P.E.. What about your P. E. teacher, or another staff member, or an older, bigger girl, who might have the strength to properly tighten your brace for you? Either ask for help yourself, or have one of your parents ask the school to make arrangements for someone to help you. It won't be a big problem as it only takes a short amount of time to do it. BTW, don't worry if the other kids say anything, if they do, it will most likely out of curiosity. You'll probably draw quite a bit of attention for a while, because it's likely that not many other kids have seen someone in a brace - it's a novelty. Like others have said, it's like someone getting a cast on their arm or leg, there'll be alot of questions at first, and then it will be like you've always had it.

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I have a female P.E. teacher so he couldnt do it. My mom is going in to talk to the teacher to see if one of my friends could tighten it for me.

I have not been wearing it lately (only through half of the day and all night)...so maybe I wont have to wear it at school. But who knows... :D

Eliza
01-03-2008, 07:01 PM
I meant I dont have a female teacher...sorry! Typo... :p

ScoliThug
01-08-2008, 09:37 PM
Well for me, my guy friends were like "wow thats so cool" and the girls would occasionally knock on it xD , trying to tighten it, well, you'll have to do the best you can. Ive learned how to tigeten it more. From when i started i could barely do it but now i have developed a bit of arm muscle to do it :P

txmarinemom
01-08-2008, 11:43 PM
Well for me, my guy friends were like "wow thats so cool" and the girls would occasionally knock on it xD , trying to tighten it, well, you'll have to do the best you can. Ive learned how to tigeten it more. From when i started i could barely do it but now i have developed a bit of arm muscle to do it :P

Thug, the worst thing you can do is adjust your brace solo.

ElleBelleCurvz
01-09-2008, 05:21 PM
why is that such a bad thing? my doctor said if i can do it on myself then fine, im tiny too...so its not like im some strong person, but its really not too difficult so what can be so bad about it??

txmarinemom
01-09-2008, 05:55 PM
Elle, I did it too - from the first week in: It's not advisable because one side will inevitably get a stronger pull, and the pads will NOT be placed properly.

Just because you *can*, doesn't mean your orthotist or orthopaedic would tell you to do it. In fact, mine told me NOT to ... In 1979.

I can't imagine the brace has changed since then, or become *that* much more self adjusting. But, hey ... if your doc says do it, have at it.

Good luck with that.

BraceGal
01-09-2008, 06:58 PM
Hi, i want to say when i change for PE or go to the toilet i get a school aid to help me in the disabled bathroom!
Its private and i really trust the aid!
Oh and I've never had a person make fun of me, ppl ask questions and give me funny looks but thats it.
hope that helpful, BraceGal

Eliza
01-12-2008, 07:46 PM
My orthopro told me not to do it myself, either. I have a teachers aid do it, so it works very smoothly. I dont have anybody making fun or teasing me; so that was a big plus! I do have people ask a couple odd questions every now and then, but nothing to bad.

I hate when I get done with p.e. and I am all sweaty, and my brace makes it even worse. Anyone had this problem before? :o

BraceGal
01-12-2008, 08:21 PM
Eliza,
yeah that happens heaps and i usally try to keep it off 4 as long as i can! :)
But usually my aid tells me "when the drs say u can have it off i'll leave it off!" :mad:
i get over it tho
i hate it when u get a sweaty inside the brace and then take it off and ur singlets wet! :( its horible!!

BraceGal (boston Brace 2 years) :p :mad: :cool: :rolleyes:

Eliza
01-19-2008, 03:03 PM
BraceGal,
Yeah I try to keep the brace off of me as possible, but my mom or dad always put it back on me. I hate when you get out of P.E. and you are all sweaty and your brace only makes matters worse; Cause well mine contains most of the heat in side of my brace so it is really hot. I hate it so much, but it will be better for the long run I guess.

Any other ideas and/or solutions? :(

BraceGal
01-23-2008, 03:01 AM
lol a good way is if u have lunch or a break after lunch is to try and go to a a/c room and stand under it!! i do that alot at lunch!!

TAYLA

ElleBelleCurvz
01-23-2008, 05:26 PM
Well I'd suggest you wear layers, I start gym in a week and we have connectime (15 minute home room) aftr gym hour luckily that i can cool off, but I wuld say wear a tanktop or tshirt that covers it and bring a sweatshirt for when u cool off (if u do) otherwise drink water! I have tons of issues with not drinking enuff water which may add to my heat! best wishes~

oh and btw, i adj. mine on my own and i went to get my first xray 2day, and all of my curves are exactly within 1-2 degreees of each other..so i guess my pads arent placed wrong...but thats just me :-\

spine'[chicka]
01-25-2008, 07:40 PM
It may seem like people will make fun of you, but really, they won't.
I got my TLSO brace about 7 months ago. The first day that I wore it to school, one kid said to me "what's up, football player?!" I cried, and I was really upset because nobody else at my school has one. He did not realize that I had a brace, and when he found out he came and apologized. All of the popular girls at my school thought it was so cool, and they wanted to try it on! I found it so weird that nobody was picking on me, or laughing at me. Since then, anybody that sees me never notices it, and they're totally used to it! It's pretty neat. :D