Hi, I wrote about my 73 year old mom's operation two months ago. She's doing pretty well, but I have questions, especially for people who were a bit older when they had their operations.
Did you experience frustrations with feeling like you weren't able to resume your old activities fast enough? Or with feeling tired a lot?
In Mom's case, she can't load the dishwasher, start it, push a vacuum, get cans out of the bottom shelves. She can bathe, cook to a certain extent, and load a washing machine, just not the dryer, which is closer to the ground. And my dad is domestically challenged, although extremely helpful in many other ways.
Were any of you able to get friends involved in helping with shopping and other chores, including driving to doctor's appointments?
Did you worry about whether the fusing was "taking" or whether you were bumping the screws or twisting?
Was it at all hard to do enough walking? She walks around her house a lot, slowly, and some outside in her yard, but actually going for a walk seems a good while off.
Mom's care network seems a bit thin, or maybe she's hesitant to ask for help outside the family. She gets home caregiving for a few hours a week and I can come two mornings a week. Mainly we help her with chores.
Was discouragement a strong emotion for any of you at this point of healing?
I appreciate any answers from your personal experiences. I think it's going well, but I've never been through it myself.
Thanks,
Laura B.
Did you experience frustrations with feeling like you weren't able to resume your old activities fast enough? Or with feeling tired a lot?
In Mom's case, she can't load the dishwasher, start it, push a vacuum, get cans out of the bottom shelves. She can bathe, cook to a certain extent, and load a washing machine, just not the dryer, which is closer to the ground. And my dad is domestically challenged, although extremely helpful in many other ways.
Were any of you able to get friends involved in helping with shopping and other chores, including driving to doctor's appointments?
Did you worry about whether the fusing was "taking" or whether you were bumping the screws or twisting?
Was it at all hard to do enough walking? She walks around her house a lot, slowly, and some outside in her yard, but actually going for a walk seems a good while off.
Mom's care network seems a bit thin, or maybe she's hesitant to ask for help outside the family. She gets home caregiving for a few hours a week and I can come two mornings a week. Mainly we help her with chores.
Was discouragement a strong emotion for any of you at this point of healing?
I appreciate any answers from your personal experiences. I think it's going well, but I've never been through it myself.
Thanks,
Laura B.
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