View Full Version : understand her pain

09-07-2006, 04:04 PM
Chris , I am sorry you might have not understood totally what I was saying or meant. First understand Dawn was incised ( cut open ) approximately 16 inches , ( Painfull in itself ) then she had her discs removed ( painful to be expected ) then she had temporary wedges implaced ( not going to tickle ) awhen the nurse was going to do her test's causing dawn pain, She was checking her neurological function , how she did that was to ask her to lift her legs. Now please understand with all that Pain ( normal after the surgery ) Dawn gladly did that , which caused her pain. Dawn would not want anyone to get upset at what happened to her, after talking to her today , she is better already , pain still gone in her leg , and they are sitting her up today.. This sugery is good , her experience is great so far. I felt guilty and bad today that you might not have understood totally, and that I should explain more. Pain is to be expected in this sugery. it's going away already on 1 day after. Once again I am sorry if I didnt explain well , and i would hope you would consider not leaving the forum. Thank you Eric...........

09-07-2006, 04:33 PM
Hi Eric, thanks so much for posting. Don't worry about a thing -- you're not responsible for somone staying with or leaving the forum!

We really appreciate your letting us know what's going on. I'm so glad Dawn's more comfortable today. Here's wishing her lots of success with surgery number 2!

09-07-2006, 05:58 PM
That's good, I had a feeling it would get better, as it did for me as well.

But once again a lot of pain can be expected with this surgery, and anybody telling others that it's not common or rare is a disservice. I'm sorry but that's how I feel.

09-08-2006, 03:46 AM
Dont you dare feel bad. You have no need to apologise, for crying out loud. You only told the truth Eric and as Sweetness said if you lied what type of dis-service would you be giving people who read your posts.

Chris made me furious and may I say not for the first time, so please dont worry. You have more on your mind to worry about than upsetting one person.

So glad Dawney's pain is settling down a bit, bless you both.

Macky xx

09-08-2006, 11:29 AM
You have no reason to feel bad. We all have different experiences and anyone contimplating this surgery knows that. The pain Dawn experienced is not common among those of use who've had this surgery, but it does happen, as do a lot of other things that we don't expect and don't want to think about. You are very courageous for standing by Dawn at a time like this. My husband was amazing throughout my recovery and I can't imagine not having him there to go through it all with me!

If Chris left, it's because she is not ready to handle this surgery and all that comes with it. I've sent her a PM letting her know what I think of her past and present posts. Not sure what good it will do, but please know that she has had many negative posts about all sorts of aspects of this surgery and our recoveries...something she's yet to experience, but seems to know an awful lot about.

Please know that we're thinking of Dawn and wishing her luck through her 2nd surgery!

09-08-2006, 11:49 AM
I'll echo what everyone else said. No need to apologize or feel bad. We make our own choices. Each of us is different and therefore our experiences are unique. Some like to put us all in the same box so to speak and that's just not how it works. Again, please let Dawn know we're all pulling for her and hope to hear from her when she's up to it.

09-08-2006, 02:21 PM

You are an amazing and wonderful person. Dawney has found a true and wonderful gift in you. My husband was sooooo amazing during my surgery and now recovery- it will make the two of you even stronger- because you are doing it together.

As far as Chris, honesty IS the best policy. This type of surgery is no "cookie cutter" surgery. Experiences will be different from one person to another. But, what we can do in my opinion is be here for each other. Please do not apologize for another persons ignorance!!!!!