OK...I need to vent this. I was talking with someone from my husband's family the other night and after seeing my x-rays and showing them to thier boss who is a vet, this person insisted that I had to have been in a lot of pain throughout my life and wanted to know why I hadn't had the surgery sooner. When I told them that I was never in a pain from my scoliosis and that was part of why I waited, they insisted that I was in pain, I just didn't know it, going so far as to say, "Yes, you were" each time I would say that I wasn't in pain at any time in my life.
Why is it that people who aren't going through something feel that they can project their feelings and thoughts onto you and feel that they know what's best for you? This is the same person who 4 weeks into my recovery told me that I shouldn't be on any painkillers because it was all in my head (mind you, I was only taking them at night at that point, which I thought was pretty damn good!) and was comparing my fusion with thier daughter's heart valve replacement surgery. UGH! I just get so frustrated by people who do this and this person does this with everything, it's as if no one's feelings or opinions matter except for theirs. I'm so sorry to vent with you all, but I figured that if anyone would understand this, people here would.
Thanks for letting me get that out....
Why is it that people who aren't going through something feel that they can project their feelings and thoughts onto you and feel that they know what's best for you? This is the same person who 4 weeks into my recovery told me that I shouldn't be on any painkillers because it was all in my head (mind you, I was only taking them at night at that point, which I thought was pretty damn good!) and was comparing my fusion with thier daughter's heart valve replacement surgery. UGH! I just get so frustrated by people who do this and this person does this with everything, it's as if no one's feelings or opinions matter except for theirs. I'm so sorry to vent with you all, but I figured that if anyone would understand this, people here would.
Thanks for letting me get that out....
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