So, here goes....
For those of you who've had the surgery (as I have), were any of your partners afraid of hurting you during sex? That seems to be an issue for me. My sweet husband can't forget about my recovery and relax his brain enough to enjoy. I keep reassuring him that I will definitely let him know if it hurts (!) but he says it's a mental block for him. Also, I just can't move in the same ways as before (fused to sacrum) and surgery was 9 months ago. We're still trying to figure out how to coordinate our bodies; I've looked online at suggestions for people who are disabled. It barely helps! There are many variations possible, but sometimes you just things to work the way they used to. We are both young (ish) and I really don't want to face a lifetime of this. It affects the relationship and our individual identities.
My other question is more graphic, and really for the women out there (sorry guys), and probably requires a PM response. How do you lift your hips the right way? I know about pillows, but that only helps a little. So far, I haven't been able to get any specific recommendations from people who've had this surgery. I figure with all of the specific bodily functions discussed on here, what's one more?!
Thanks!
For those of you who've had the surgery (as I have), were any of your partners afraid of hurting you during sex? That seems to be an issue for me. My sweet husband can't forget about my recovery and relax his brain enough to enjoy. I keep reassuring him that I will definitely let him know if it hurts (!) but he says it's a mental block for him. Also, I just can't move in the same ways as before (fused to sacrum) and surgery was 9 months ago. We're still trying to figure out how to coordinate our bodies; I've looked online at suggestions for people who are disabled. It barely helps! There are many variations possible, but sometimes you just things to work the way they used to. We are both young (ish) and I really don't want to face a lifetime of this. It affects the relationship and our individual identities.
My other question is more graphic, and really for the women out there (sorry guys), and probably requires a PM response. How do you lift your hips the right way? I know about pillows, but that only helps a little. So far, I haven't been able to get any specific recommendations from people who've had this surgery. I figure with all of the specific bodily functions discussed on here, what's one more?!
Thanks!
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