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golfnut
04-11-2013, 08:26 PM
Many of you know that I've posted in the past about being thrilled to be back to my fun activities, such as, golfing, tap dancing, riding my bike, etc. Today, I wasn't teaching and it was too cold and windy to play golf, so I went shopping. I just realized that I've been able to go shopping for longer periods of time without my back tiring. I also don't reject as many outfits as I did before surgery when I would become discouraged when seeing the view of my back in the mirror that showed my predominant rib hump. I've definitely spent more money on clothes (so I'm not sure that's a plus), however, I love being able to buy clothes that aren't all loose fitting and I also am happy that I'm not tiring out when shopping for other people, as well as for myself.

Doreen1
04-12-2013, 07:15 AM
Amen, sistah! :)

Irina
04-12-2013, 11:54 AM
Oh, I can't wait to go shopping! May be I'll go soon. Before the surgery, shopping was such a depressing experience that I stopped buying new clothes and only wore old baggy outfits. I didn't wear dresses for many years because I looked terrible in them, but I love, love dresses. If I wore a dress, it had to be something with a matching jacket, which was difficult to find. Weddings and any formal events were so depressing for me in terms of dressing up. My husband enjoys wearing suits for formal occasions, and I hated to dress up because I couldn't! I only had a few dresses with matching jackets that weren't my style, but I bought them only because of these jackets. These dresses were for older women, but I had to wear them because they were my only option.

Not anymore! Now I can buy clothes that fit my style and no more matching jackets! I am also growing my hair longer because I want to be a new person - with straight back and longish hair. I didn't do this surgery for cosmetic reasons and would never recommend anyone to go into this surgery only because they don't like the look of their backs, but cosmetic benefit is so great! I have lots of healing to do, but seeing my back in the mirror lifts my spirits a lot!

Confusedmom
04-13-2013, 11:03 PM
Live it up, ladies! I am actually 15 pounds heavier than pre-op, but I STILL fit better in dresses than I did before! I can't wait until I lose this "freshman 15" (wink, wink) and can really enjoy dresses.

Irina, you are going to love that first time out shopping!

Karen, I wanted to buy a bunch of new clothes, so I eventually hit the consignment shops!! I highly recommend consignment shopping in an upscale area. I did it in Naples, FL and got all kinds of great brands at bargain basement prices!

Cheers,
Evelyn

golfnut
04-14-2013, 07:37 AM
Irina,
The first time I went shopping fairly early during my recovery, I was still not even stooping or bending. I was so excited that I was driving again and selecting some new clothes, that I dropped my credit card and had to ask the clerk if she would pick it up for me because I'd had back surgery. It is so much less frustrating to buy clothes now since I don't have to eliminate so many styles because of my back. Have fun!

aileens
04-14-2013, 08:13 AM
Karen,

Did you have any pain/discomfort when trying on clothes? I'm 8 weeks post and I still haven't "shopped my closet" to see how my old stuff fits since I find it uncomfortable to move in certain ways - it's a bit painful to move my arms since I'm fused up to T3, and taking off sweaters stretches the whole back and it feels really weird. I'm excited to go shopping but don't quite feel up to it yet.

golfnut
04-14-2013, 08:41 AM
It was much later in my recovery than 8 weeks since I drove myself. It was probably closer to four or five months. You'll get there!

maggie6
04-14-2013, 10:44 AM
I'm also at 8 weeks postop. Not quite ready to do major shopping yet but so exited to do it. My skin feels really sensitive and putting on jeans feels weird now. That's getting better though. Glad you're having fun Karen.

Irina
04-14-2013, 12:17 PM
Yesterday I purchased this dress online from macys.com. Returns can be made at any time after the purchase, so if it doesn't fit, I'll just return it. You can either mail it back or go to the store and return it there. Macys doesn't charge shipping fees on purchases made over $99.

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/evan-picone-dress-sleeveless-empire-waist-pleated?ID=683181&CategoryID=5449#fn=sp%3D1%26spc%3D1623%26ruleId%3D 38%26slotId%3D7

Maggie6 and aileens, do you want to try shopping online? Some people prefer to try clothes on and I was one of them, but hey, after this huge surgery trying something new like shopping online should be fun. I am sure it will lift your spirits up. Try it!

aileens
04-14-2013, 02:11 PM
Thanks Karen!

Maggie, wearing jeans feels weird to me at first - I think it's the sensation of putting clothes on. I'm really numb from my shoulders to my butt so pulling clothes on kinda gives me the willies, for lack of a better way of describing it.

Irina, that's a gorgeous dress! I love to online shop, mostly because physically shopping in stores before surgery had me in pain within the first 15 mins. I'm holding off for the time being since I've lost a ton of weight but don't expect to stay this size since I'm now eating anything not nailed down :-(. We'll see how long my shopping restraint lasts...

JenniferG
04-14-2013, 02:33 PM
Glad to see more people shopping online! (Since I own an online shop myself, hehe!)

Unfortunately the dress is not showing up for me but it's great the shipping is free and you can return it if necessary. I think as long as you check the return policy first, online shopping's great.

Enjoy your new clothes ladies! You've earned it!

Irina
04-14-2013, 04:42 PM
Glad to see more people shopping online! (Since I own an online shop myself, hehe!)

Unfortunately the dress is not showing up for me but it's great the shipping is free and you can return it if necessary. I think as long as you check the return policy first, online shopping's great.

Enjoy your new clothes ladies! You've earned it!

What type of online shop do you own, Jennifer?

golfnut
04-14-2013, 05:17 PM
Irina,
I love your dress. It looks sassy!

JenniferG
04-14-2013, 05:59 PM
What type of online shop do you own, Jennifer?

Karen, I have an online baby and children's jewelry shop. I won't give the address here but you can PM me if you'd like to look at it. :D

Irina
04-14-2013, 08:00 PM
Karen, I have an online baby and children's jewelry shop. I won't give the address here but you can PM me if you'd like to look at it. :D

I sent you a PM.

susancook
04-14-2013, 10:56 PM
Karen,

Did you have any pain/discomfort when trying on clothes? I'm 8 weeks post and I still haven't "shopped my closet" to see how my old stuff fits since I find it uncomfortable to move in certain ways - it's a bit painful to move my arms since I'm fused up to T3, and taking off sweaters stretches the whole back and it feels really weird. I'm excited to go shopping but don't quite feel up to it yet.

Hi Aileens! I am 3 weeks postoperative and am fused to T3 to sacrum and I know what you mean about pain in your whole back. I started to wear Lidocaine patches on my upper back lateral to my incision line. I cut them in half. That eases the pain. My therapist said that the muscles in my upper back were stretched out so much before surgery and then stretched again with surgery, that they need time to get back into their new position. Cold packs also help a lot.

Karen, the last time that I went shopping before surgery, I had lots of clothes in the fitting room and was so exhausted that I quit and just bought the first shirt that fit and left. I was totally wiped out! I won't be shopping for a while.....Susan

the_baroness
06-12-2014, 05:46 PM
I see this is an old thread, but I have shopping on my mind! It's so much better to wear dresses now that I have a waist! And my hips are even! And I have an arch in my spine instead of resembling a board in back! But my issue right now is stretchiness. Now that it's summer and I've started to wear dresses and skirts without stockings (thank God, because stockings are still a pain to get on), I've discovered something alarming: it's almost impossible to tie my shoe or bend down to pick anything up in a non-stretch skirt. (I'm fused to pelvis, so there's only squatting for me if I need to get down to the ground.) Whenever I have to change my shoes at work, I close my office door so I can hike up my skirt without flashing everyone. Am seriously considering buying a bunch of spanex shorts to wear under skirts for these just in case moments. And I'm still grappling with the issue of being absolutely intolerant of anything stiff or restricting anywhere on my body. So everything from tight jeans to underwire bras are out. In fact, I made a vow to myself this past weekend: for the rest of my life I'm never buying anything else that doesn't have at least 5% spandex! Seriously, I only ever want to wear stretchy clothes for the rest of my life. Otherwise, I will never be able to tie my shoes in public again! (Yes, I do have elastic shoelaces for my sneakers - but I just bought a new pair and haven't swapped out the laces yet - to my peril when my shoe came untied in the subway last night! It was interesting to say the least.) Anyhow, just wondering what others think about needing stretchy versus non-stretchy clothes, and at what point you are in your recovery, and how you think that might relate to your stretchiness preferences. Discuss! Can't wait to hear how others feel about this topic!

golfnut
06-12-2014, 08:16 PM
Putting tennis shoes and golf shoes on was not easy for a long time unless I had a step to put one foot on or I could sit in a chair. I sit and cross one leg across my knee if wearing shoes that tie, but for a year or so, my bows were always on the inside instead of being centered. Now, I can tie them in the center, so I know my flexibility is a little better. It's not easy to put my golf shoes on in the front seat of my car dealing with the steering wheel, so I put them on at home before going to the golf course. It would definitely be difficult for me to put on a shoe that has to be tied with a short skirt. I have managed to put on panty hoes a few times, but it is not easy and not worth it! I wore leggings with boots a few times last winter and it was much easier.

Irina
06-12-2014, 11:24 PM
Have you tried skechers without shoelaces? I keep a pair of these under my desk at work and just slide my feet in when I go on walks. I do not wear anything with shoelaces with skirts or dresses. Flats, sandals without any hooks, so that I just slide my feet in, or low hill shoes are my choice. I only wear sneakers with jeans or in the gym.

I have an office job an if I need to get something from a lower drower, I get down on my knees. No biggie, I don't mind it. Stretchy clothes - did not think about it... I wear form fitting dresses, skirts and tops most of the time since the surgery and love it. Under wire bras never gave me any problems...

susancook
06-16-2014, 01:05 AM
I still have some difficulty putting on my R sock and shoe. Sometimes I am luckier than others in getting them on. Sometimes my husband puts them on, sometimes I leave the house half-socked and ask someone along my journey to help me. Sometimes, I change what I am putting on my feet. I just purchased sneakers with stretchy laces to gain more independence.

I am working on my attitude. Susan

Confusedmom
06-16-2014, 09:58 PM
I am fine with everything except the bras. Definitely no underwires, and I actually prefer sports bras if I can find them. The tightness across my back still bothers me 2-years post-op. Not painful, just annoying. Weird because I am not busty.

danicaf
06-16-2014, 11:12 PM
I am fine with everything except the bras. Definitely no underwires, and I actually prefer sports bras if I can find them. The tightness across my back still bothers me 2-years post-op. Not painful, just annoying. Weird because I am not busty.

This is something I've been wanting to ask. What do the "busty" ladies wear after surgery? Going without a bra is not an option for me. Even my sports bras have underwires. (If I could find pajamas with underwires I'd wear those!) Any ideas or suggestions?

PeggyS
06-17-2014, 06:15 AM
Wow- I am SO looking forward to the bonus of looking better in clothes. More selection when shopping AND more stamina - woohoo! I'd better freeze my credit cards!

I can certainly relate to what Susan said about going into the dressing room with a ton of clothes & 'maybe' finding 1 item that is acceptable from the side/back view!

Aileens: you mentioned limited upper body movement. Are you able to hold a hair dryer? I have thick hair & wear it in a long-ish bob. Debating on whether or not to go short b/f surgery. Current plan is to keep it as is, so I can put it in a pony tail during the early stage of recovery.

More related questions: how soon were you women able to go to the hairdresser & sit long enough for a color session? Also, how about pedicures? Getting into those chairs & sitting for an hour?

It's great to be able to get answers about these 'not so important' issues related to spine surgery!

Thanks, friends!

jane d
06-17-2014, 08:19 PM
I was fused from T-4 to sacrum and was able to blow dry my hair and use a curling iron about
3 weeks after my surgery at age 67 almost two years ago. I went to my hairdresser to have it colored and
Cut at about 6 weeks after surgery and the only problem I had was that I couldn't (and still can't) tilt my head back at all into the sink for her to wash and rinse it so she had to move the chair and I sort of squat and put my head face forward down into the sink and she rinses my hair and water runs all over my face removing most of my makeup. I can only wash my hair at home now in the shower and not in the sink under the spout like I could before my surgery. I am very short--only 4'11 in. I was 5'2''' 3 years before surgery and lost 51/2" and got down to 4'9". I have finally managed to take tub baths about 2 months ago
With the help of a bath pillow someone here suggested but it still isn't comfortable and thus take mostly
Showers.
Jane

Confusedmom
06-17-2014, 11:50 PM
Pedicure - immediately! Just take a pillow with you.

Hair - immediately if you wash it in the shower and go with wet hair. It was at least six months and probably a year before I could comfortably have them wash it. Oh, and take a pillow.

Just keep a pillow in the car the first year. :-)

Irina
06-18-2014, 10:07 PM
I had a first pedi and a haircut at 3 months postop. I cut my hear very short before the surgery so that I didn't nave to fuss with it. I am lucky that my heardresser has one of these newer chairs where they wash hair. It has a very tall back and reclines so that you are almost laing down, like in a bed with a sink attached. Don't know if my description makes any sense, but you may see these chairs in higher end salons. I don't have any problems washing my hair if I am in this chair.

the_baroness
06-19-2014, 06:28 PM
I think the not-so-important issues like hair and clothes and pedicures are the most fun! After exactly 1 year of pain and struggle and exhaustion, thinking about hair and clothes gives me such great pleasure. It's a treat to myself!

I went to the salon for a color about a month after my surgery. My colorist is a dear friend of mine, and she was extremely accomodating with lots of pillows and an electric reclining chair for the rinse. I brought a friend with me to help me. On return trips to the salon, I've brought my special wedge pillow, but this seems to make it difficult for her to reach my hair. But I'm fine with sitting for a few hours now (although I still have no love for it), so I just deal with it. Regarding blow drying my hair, I had my surgery in the summer, and since it was so hot, I just didn't blow dry it and left it wet. I was not able to get it into a pony tail though (still can't), because I couldn't raise my arms then, and I still can't bend over and flip my head upside down like I used to to make a pony tail. I put my hair up with clips now instead, which seems to work better anyhow. Once it got cold, I needed to start blow drying my hair, and that's right when I went back to work. I was concerned about how to do it, because at the time, I was still too weak to hold my arms up over my head and hold a blow dryer. So my PT gave me an exercise tapping a ball against the wall over my head, and I did 3 sets of 10 twice a day for a month or two. Not sure if that helped really, but made me feel like I was taking action. Eventually I just started propping my arm up on the sink to hold the blow dryer. I think I dry my hair differently now. I seem to do everything differently now, so I have trouble remembering the old me!

Going for a pedicure was and is still a problem. I can't reach my toes very well to cut my toenails myself, and in the months after the surgery I REALLY couldn't reach my toes. But I actually dislike pedicures because I don't like other people touching my toes (I know, I'm wierd.) But about a month or two after the surgery, after procrastinating way too long, I finally stumbled into a nail salon, still totally high on Oxycontin, and got a pedicure. No polish. Completely confused and forgot I was wearing sneakers, which at the time I wasn't able to put back on by myself without using all my tools and grabbers and whatnot. Had to ask the nail lady to help me. Had to ask for help crawling in and out of the chair. All in all it was a pretty unpleasant and humiliating experience. Most of the nail people in NY don't speak English very well, so I didn't want to explain the whole "recent back surgery" thing. I didn't go back for another pedicure until last month for the first time! For the life of me I cannot remember how I managed to cut my toenails in the intervening time. I can now reach my toes after some intensive stretching, so I can do them myself, but I tried to do the polish myself and messed it up because I still have trouble reaching all the way. So if I want polish I have to brave the salon. But when I went last month, I was surprised at how flexible I've become, because I was easily able to crawl over a bunch of chairs, while juggling a purse and backpack and wet toenails. So I can say I am definitely improving!

Susan, I love your comment about working on your attitude. Yes, that's probably what I should do instead of buying new clothes! But yesterday I bought a cheapo stretchy black skirt and some loose fitting cotton crop pants. I hope to live in both this summer whenever I am not at the office.

I cannot speak to the question for busty ladies. I think maybe I don't fall in that category! I think I can live without underwires. I might even be small enough to live without a bra at all. But I am too prudish and self-conscious to go without one. I bought a bunch of non-underwire bras when I went back to work. They are terribly ugly and not too comfortable, actually. I think I'd probably be most comfortable with just a tank top. When there's constricting metal inside your body, who wants constricting metal outside your body too! Ugh, I can barely tolerate clothes on my body. I just can't stand the feeling of anything pinching me. That is new since the surgery. But maybe I just need to work on my attitude!

The shoes issue is still an issue. But I am solving it with more shopping! I think I finally have some decent supportive casual shoes that can be worn in a variety of weathers. I've got non-waterproof sneakers for sunny days with lots of walking. I've got waterproof sneakers for rainy days. Both have elastic shoelaces, which as someone said, give more independance. It is a terrible thing for a grown woman to have to ask someone to tie her shoe! I have waterproof slip on rain shoes in shiny black if I don't want to look like a galumph in my giant waterproof new balance sneakers which look a bit like blocks on concrete on my feet. I have fleece lined slip on Merrils for winter. I have waterproof slip on boots for snow that still look ok with a skirt. They're not warm enough, but I will work on that next winter. I've got slip on Berkenstock sandals for summer. All my shoes have a flat wide base and non slip soles. I'm still pretty unsteady. I read on here somewhere, maybe it was Irina? someone saying they felt like a kite in the wind. I kind of feel that way all the time! Especially in the subway stations. Especially in the rain. Everything in NYC is foot traffic, so you better be steady on your feet around here! That's why good shoes are such a crusade of mine. My next frontier though is shoes that actually look nice and don't make me look silly. I am unsteady and slow in flats. Heels are absolutely out of the questions. I wear flats at work around the office, and I just go slow and try to be careful. I tried to wear a pair of Aerosole sandals with a 1-inch heel to a wedding last month (hence the pedicure) and it was a real mess. I couldn't navigate around in groups. I couldn't hold myself up very well. I won't try that again. My PT asked me to bring them in so we could practice walking in them. Been meaning to do that but lately I've been focused on practicing my squats. My whole goal at this 1-year anniversary is to become more independent. And shoes and clothes factor in enormously! I need to do whatever it takes right now to feel comfortable and steady out in public on my own. If I drop something in the subway, or if I'm out on the street walking through fast moving aggressive crowds, I need clothes and shoes that will help me - not obstruct me. I need all the help I can get right now! So while I known for being skeaky-cheap to my friends (even though I love clothes!) I'm willing to spend some money right now on the clothes and shoes that are part of my independence/survival action plan! Not sure how my husband feels about the spend :) but I know he doesn't want to escort me to the nail salon, tie my shoes, or carry me down the stairs in the subway, so what's a little money, right? It's only money, as my dad likes to say.

I am considering Dr. Martens as a shoe choice for the office. Does anyone have any experience with them? I know they are waterproof, which is a huge plus in NYC. And the lug soles will help me stay steady. They might not help me look all that feminine. But I'm thinking about abandoning that as one my my fashion goals!

That's it for now, friends, have a great weekend!

jrnyc
06-19-2014, 08:15 PM
they used to advertise something on TV that holds the blow dryer, if you put it on a counter, which leaves both
hands free for using the dryer...
you also might have your husband mount the hair dryer, at a
height convenient for you to aim to heat downward to your hair.
i have super curly hair, and it takes enormous energy to blow dry with a brush, so i use rollers for smoothing/straightening, or let it curl with lots of sticky gel (if i am not at a salon)

i stopped using the subway after 9/11.
i worked a full time job and a part time job in Manhattan....i swear the part time job was to pay for all my cabs....the worse my spine got, the more cabs i took....i cab everywhere in Manhattan now...of necessity.

jess...and Sparky

Irina
06-19-2014, 10:12 PM
I had my surgery in March and I live in California, so I just damped the blowdryer for about 2 months and let my hair airdry. Girls, we need to give our hair some break - blow drying it every day makes hair dry and brittle. I thought that several months of air drying would be a perfect vacation for my hair :-) I am a glass half full type of person, haha. I was comfortable using a blow dryer at about 3-4 months. Just don't use heavy blow dryers. I have a basic blow dryer, but it is quite light weight.

springchicken
06-20-2014, 07:22 AM
hi baroness,

i used to wear doc martens (years ago!) and i found the heaviness of the sole hurt my back after a while. but my back is so sensitive to the types of shoes i wear; this might not be a problem for you.

you might also want to check out campers. http://www.camper.com/en_US/women/shoes
they are well-made shoes and comfortable. not as heavy as docs.

i am so hoping that someday i will be less limited to the types of shoes i wear. almost 6 months after surgery and i still mainly have to wear sneakers... in fact i have a wedding tomorrow and im dreading getting dressed up. :(

Irina
06-23-2014, 12:23 AM
hi baroness,

i used to wear doc martens (years ago!) and i found the heaviness of the sole hurt my back after a while. but my back is so sensitive to the types of shoes i wear; this might not be a problem for you.

you might also want to check out campers. http://www.camper.com/en_US/women/shoes
they are well-made shoes and comfortable. not as heavy as docs.

i am so hoping that someday i will be less limited to the types of shoes i wear. almost 6 months after surgery and i still mainly have to wear sneakers... in fact i have a wedding tomorrow and im dreading getting dressed up. :(

Hi Springchicken,

It will get better and you will be less limited in your choice of shoes, just give it some time. Six months is still very early. You are doing great!

Rise
06-23-2014, 08:27 AM
Hi Springchicken,

It will get better and you will be less limited in your choice of shoes, just give it some time. Six months is still very early. You are doing great!

Hi Everyone,

My surgery is scheduled for July 2 (Yikes!!) and I'm busy worrying about everything including wardrobe issues. Shoes are a definite concern. I plan on living in Sanuks and comfortable driving moccasins for awhile but am curious about how difficult it is to walk in heels (even low ones) or flip flops post surgery. Also, on another note, ladies how difficult is it (or rather how uncomfortable is it) to wear a bra after surgery? I bought front closing bras and am hoping that they will be suitable. Going braless is simply not an option for me.

I realize that this is likely a topic for another thread but what should I plan on bringing to the hospital in terms of personal items? Can you wear your own pajamas, sweats, etc. or am I best off in hospital gowns? How messy does the sizable incision get as far as oozing, bleeding, etc? Excuse my random questions. I'm stressing big time as I countdown to .....

Rise

danicaf
06-23-2014, 10:31 PM
Hi Everyone,

My surgery is scheduled for July 2 (Yikes!!) and I'm busy worrying about everything including wardrobe issues. Shoes are a definite concern. I plan on living in Sanuks and comfortable driving moccasins for awhile but am curious about how difficult it is to walk in heels (even low ones) or flip flops post surgery. Also, on another note, ladies how difficult is it (or rather how uncomfortable is it) to wear a bra after surgery? I bought front closing bras and am hoping that they will be suitable. Going braless is simply not an option for me.

I realize that this is likely a topic for another thread but what should I plan on bringing to the hospital in terms of personal items? Can you wear your own pajamas, sweats, etc. or am I best off in hospital gowns? How messy does the sizable incision get as far as oozing, bleeding, etc? Excuse my random questions. I'm stressing big time as I countdown to .....

Rise

Hi Rise,

I haven't had surgery yet but I would say an absolute NO to flip flops. I fell twice last summer when the edge of my flip flop caught on my front step.

I'm with you on the inability of going bra less. Please let me know how that issue works out for you. Believe it, or not, that is one of my worries; not only right after surgery but down the road.

Good luck! My thoughts will be with you on July 2nd.

Diane

Irina
06-23-2014, 10:42 PM
Hi Everyone,

My surgery is scheduled for July 2 (Yikes!!) and I'm busy worrying about everything including wardrobe issues. Shoes are a definite concern. I plan on living in Sanuks and comfortable driving moccasins for awhile but am curious about how difficult it is to walk in heels (even low ones) or flip flops post surgery. Also, on another note, ladies how difficult is it (or rather how uncomfortable is it) to wear a bra after surgery? I bought front closing bras and am hoping that they will be suitable. Going braless is simply not an option for me.

I realize that this is likely a topic for another thread but what should I plan on bringing to the hospital in terms of personal items? Can you wear your own pajamas, sweats, etc. or am I best off in hospital gowns? How messy does the sizable incision get as far as oozing, bleeding, etc? Excuse my random questions. I'm stressing big time as I countdown to .....

Rise

Hi Rise,

I wear flats, sandals and low hill shoes with no problems, but I avoid flip flops because I am just being careful. I could if I wanted, but think that it's easier to misstep and fall in them. I only wear flip flops when I get pedicure and go to a pool. I still prefer a thicker sole shoes, not just flimsy ones.

Front closure bras is a good idea. I could care less about any bras during first month postop, but then wore front closure ones. I still have them.

The best thing I brought to the hospital were Velcro strips. You will have a pain control release button - a thing on a long cord that you need to press and it will release a pain killer. You will definitely lose this button and search for it in a bed if you won't tie it to the rail with something. I brought those sticky Velcro strips and had my hubby tie the button to the rail so that I always knew where it was. You can buy the strips on Amazon. You will be most comfortable in a hospital gown, but bring a robe. Good luck and email me if you want to chat.

Irina
06-23-2014, 10:54 PM
Hi Rise,

I haven't had surgery yet but I would say an absolute NO to flip flops. I fell twice last summer when the edge of my flip flop caught on my front step.

I'm with you on the inability of going bra less. Please let me know how that issue works out for you. Believe it, or not, that is one of my worries; not only right after surgery but down the road.

Good luck! My thoughts will be with you on July 2nd.

Diane

Diane,

Please don't worry about bras. I am fused t6 to sacrum and never had issues with any bras, tight jeans or any clothes. Under wire bra is the only bra I'd wear. The only thing I can not wear is anything lose, baggy and stretchy because I am sick of it! After all the years of trying to hide my deformity I would not be caught dead in anything baggy now!

springchicken
06-24-2014, 09:40 AM
Hi Springchicken,

It will get better and you will be less limited in your choice of shoes, just give it some time. Six months is still very early. You are doing great!

Thanks, Irina. I am always encouraged by your posts- you seem to be doing so well! Great to hear.

springchicken
06-24-2014, 03:54 PM
Hi Everyone,

How messy does the sizable incision get as far as oozing, bleeding, etc? Excuse my random questions. I'm stressing big time as I countdown to .....

Rise

Hi Rise! Best of luck to you with your upcoming surgery! I don't know if anyone answered this, and I guess others might have had different experiences, but I wouldn't worry at all about the incision being messy.

You will have a drain for your incision and the nurses will keep an eye on it. You shouldn't even feel it. After my drain was removed, I just had bandages covering my "glued incision"; no staples or stitches or anything. There is always the possibility of infection, so make sure to follow the guidelines the hospital gives you on care for the scar. But it shouldn't be gory or anything like that.

You'll do great!

the_baroness
06-24-2014, 05:34 PM
Rise - the main reason I avoided bras for the first month was that my incision was very sensitive. So front closure, back closure, didn't really matter. Although looking back now I think it would have been hard back then to reach behind me to do up the hooks. The incision was not messy, and didn't hurt per se, but it felt like an electrical shock for a while if anything touched it. It was a real milestone for me a month after the surgery when I could wear bras again. Definitely made me feel more human and less like a mental patient (no disrespect to mental patients everywhere.) The incision was only really "messy" about a week or two after the surgery when all of a sudden part of it popped open a bit and started bleeding, for no apparent reason. That made me irrationally scared, particularly since my husband wasn't home at the time and I was craning around attempting to see it in the mirror. But I went back the next day to the plastic surgeon who handled the incision, and he put a new stitch in it, and there were no further issues. The fun part with your incision comes when it's time to try to scrape all that itchy glue off! You might want to try some cotton tank tops or something to wear under your shirt. They won't give support, but at least they'll give coverage. But then again, I seem to be the only one who is so intolerant with any restrictive clothing, which is the whole reason I posted here in the first place, to see if I am the only one, and it seems as if I am! Oh well, I will just chalk it up to a very weird side effect of the surgery.

Agree with the rest of the team: flip flops = death traps! Cardinal rule for us back surgery recovery-ers: do not fall. Flip flops seem to be expressly engineered to make people trip. I found myself some bedroom slippers that were shoe-like, with a nice rubber sole.

I still can't walk in heels. My whole center of gravity has changed now that I went from having flatback to having a lordosis. My balance still is not there yet, and I fear I will never wear heels again! But to be honest, I wasn't all that good at them before the surgery!

Also agree, you probably won't want anything but a hospital gown in the hospital. I was so out of it while in the hospital I couldn't even manage to get at my suitcase to retrieve any of the nightgowns or robe I brought. I do remember being chilly though. If I could have managed to find it and put it on, I think I might have liked to have had a robe.

Wish I'd known about the blow-dryer hands-free thingy last winter - could have used that! And thanks for the Campers link. Cute, I will check them out!

jrnyc
06-24-2014, 06:43 PM
there are rubber soled sandal/slipper thingies...made by Foot Eez....
you can find their website online...very comfortable for me
as i have messed up toes...they might help you with indoor
walking in summer, anyway....
also, some of Ugg slippers are rubber soled and pretty safe.

best of luck
jess...and Sparky

the_baroness
06-28-2014, 03:56 PM
Uniqlo now sells long pullover dresses with built in padded bra cups. Wish these had been available last year right after I got out of the hospital. I wore a lot of long pullover dresses because I wasn't able at the time to bend my legs easily to put on pants or shorts or skirts. And I only wore long dresses because shaving my legs was such an ordeal. Those of you who say going braless is not an option, well, I guess I can relate on some level because for me showing my unshaved legs is not an option. Anyhow I thought of the group here when I saw these dresses because it seems like a good post surgical dress for those of you getting ready for your big day. Built in bra and everything!