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TwinmomTN
11-20-2011, 12:57 PM
I haven't posted here much lately, but have lurking and reading posts almost daily for about six months or so. I have a long range surgery date (July 2012) scheduled with Dr. Lenke but I am on the cancellation list and am really hoping for a sooner date! With the daily pain getting worse, I don't know that I can hold out that long. In the mean time I have been dilligently walking 3 miles a day and bumping up my exercises to get conditioned for surgery. I am wondering just how long you need someone with you after discharge while recovering? My husband will need to return to work after the 2 weeks off post op. Since my Mother is retired and has a spacious home with a downstairs bedroom, she is suggesting that I come and stay with her for however long needed. I am just wondering how long it is necessary to have someone with you after returning home. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

Doreen1
11-20-2011, 01:08 PM
Hi Pam!

Were you able to change the Sep surgery date to July or am I remembering incorrectly?

Warmly,
Doreen

TwinmomTN
11-20-2011, 01:19 PM
Yes, but I am hoping for a much sooner date if you know what I mean. :) July just seems soooo far off! In the meantime I will just concentrate on exercising as much as possible and trying to build the bone density. My Mother lives in Bowling Green, which is 1.5 hours away from me so I am trying to determine whether I'd be better off up there with her for a few weeks post-op since her home is large enough that we wouldn't be in each other's way. I just want to go ahead and get all the major decisions and big plans out of the way. I am hoping/holding out for that call that you received from Kelly.

Marina63
11-20-2011, 01:41 PM
Hi!

Of course everyone is different but I know that the first two weeks are critical for having someone with you. It all depends on how mobile you are, how much medicine you are taking, how you are feeling, etc. I have a 16 year old daughter who was with me as she was on summer break at the time. My mother was with me the first week (my husband couldn't take any time off)and I don't know how I would have managed without her. Every week got easier, though. I was cooking dinner for my family at about three weeks post op.

It's probably best to have a back up plan. Perhaps you can stay home for the two weeks post op and then if you need someone, go to your mother's after that. Although riding in a car is tough. I had to build up slowly, sitting in a car for 15 minutes at first, two weeks post op, and then building from there. I was driving at six weeks post op so you can see that recovery moves ahead quickly in those early weeks.
Hope you get an earlier surgery date!

walkingmom
11-20-2011, 02:20 PM
I was fortunate to have my husband take off the entire month of my surgery. For the first couple of weeks when we were home following my surgery, he did things like handled all of my medications, helped me take showers, prepared meals for me, helped me get into bed, rolled me when I wanted to change positions, etc. Then as I got stronger each day, I did a little more for myself. Plus, since my surgery was in May, I was anxious to do my walking outdoors and he accompanied me when I did take walks for the first month or so.

Everyone's circumstances are different, but I think that being with my husband in my own surroundings (kids, house, bed, dog, etc) helped me during the early recovery period. Hopefully, you will be able to work out something that works best for your situation.

Donna

Doreen1
11-20-2011, 03:06 PM
Yes, but I am hoping for a much sooner date if you know what I mean. :) July just seems soooo far off! In the meantime I will just concentrate on exercising as much as possible and trying to build the bone density. My Mother lives in Bowling Green, which is 1.5 hours away from me so I am trying to determine whether I'd be better off up there with her for a few weeks post-op since her home is large enough that we wouldn't be in each other's way. I just want to go ahead and get all the major decisions and big plans out of the way. I am hoping/holding out for that call that you received from Kelly.

If you are in a position to act fast, put a bug in Kelly's ear and let her know you will take a fast cancellation. Follow up with her too every few weeks.

Warmly,
Doreen

TwinmomTN
11-20-2011, 03:43 PM
Will do. Like everyone else here, my thoughts will be with you in this next
week for your pre op and the following week of course.

mabeckoff
11-20-2011, 03:46 PM
why can't your mom come to your house instead of you going to her home?

golfnut
11-20-2011, 04:14 PM
Pam,
My husband was able to take off for a month which was nice. I think I was pretty independent after two weeks, however, I got dizzy and blacked out at 3 weeks post op, so I was sure glad not to be alone.
I hope you get a cancellation!

nanlo
11-20-2011, 07:00 PM
I had surgery w/ Dr Lenke too... Hope you get a cancellation date!
I had my husband w/ me for the first two weeks, then my sister stayed w/ me for the third week. In retrospect, I do think I really needed her here w/ me. It's hard to make a recommendation since we are all recovery differently, but I'm guessing that you will still be on pain meds that third week - and pretty unsteady on your feet. It would definitely be better to plan on staying w/ your mom, and then change the plan if you want to. After the third week, things really started to improve for me though - then I had a few friends and a daughter who took turns stopping in every day just to check on me or bring a meal, fold laundry, etc. Yeah, week three is still pretty rocky.
GOOD LUCK!!
Nancy

Doreen1
11-20-2011, 07:24 PM
I think I was pretty independent after two weeks,

Wow! Two weeks is incredible! I simply cannot fathom the post-op pain and to think one can be pretty independent after two weeks is so inspiring!

Warmly,
Doreen

golfnut
11-20-2011, 07:36 PM
When I said "independent" I just meant that I could get out of bed by myself, walk with my walker, get something out of the refrigerator-just basically maneuver through the house. I was not alone and would not have wanted to be alone.
My husband is sitting beside me now telling me that I was defintiely NOT INDEPENDENT for the first month. He told me that he took care of giving me the appropriate meds for the first 4 weeks. I guess I only thought I was independent. I'll blame my incorrect recollections on the medications!

Doreen1
11-20-2011, 07:48 PM
When I said "independent" I just meant that I could get out of bed by myself, walk with my walker, get something out of the refrigerator-just basically maneuver through the house. I was not alone and would not have wanted to be alone.
My husband is sitting beside me now telling me that I was defintiely NOT INDEPENDENT for the first month. He told me that he took care of giving me the appropriate meds for the first 4 weeks. I guess I only thought I was independent. I'll blame my incorrect recollections on the medications!

LOL! I guess it is inspiring to hear your meds made you believe you were independent. :-) I'll tell Dr. Lenke, "Gimme what you gave Karen please."

Warmly,
Doreen

Elisa
11-20-2011, 08:13 PM
LOL! I guess it is inspiring to hear your meds made you believe you were independent. :-) I'll tell Dr. Lenke, "Gimme what you gave Karen please."

Warmly,
DoreenWe need a LIKE button, hehe.

Roxjanine
12-21-2011, 01:42 PM
My fiance is planning to take 1-2 days off to get me situated then work 1/2 days to help me recover. I am getting fused from T2-L2 or L3 and I am afraid that I will need more help. Did anyone feel that it was absolutely necessary to have someone home with them the entire time the first few weeks?

worried,

Marina63
12-21-2011, 06:50 PM
If your fiance only works half days and you have a place to be secure while he is gone, you should be fine. I had someone with me for about three weeks, round the clock. Mainly to get me food the first 2 weeks or so and help me up and down the stairs for about 3 weeks. And showering. You can make it work if that's all you have.

djkinkead
12-21-2011, 07:22 PM
I am four months post surgery. I really don't remember where the first month went. :-)

I think the sooner you can get off oxycodone (however its spelled) and onto vicoden, the better. I did the switch after about eight days--partly because of necessity to escape the rehab place from hell. The vicodin was a good substitute and it helped me have a better appetite and less output problems...although there were still some. I also had valium which I used mostly at night--it helped me sleep and it did get rid of the muscle spasms.

I would say you need someone there full time the first two weeks after you are out of the hospital. My husband teleworked from home for the first three weeks. I think you could make do with someone there part time by week three--if you are set up where needed supplies are nearby. My sister came week four when my husband had to go on a business trip. By week four, I was able to make short little trips--go out to lunch--but also had several naps a day.

I didn't start driving until two months post surgery.

The main thing is to keep reminding yourself everyday it gets better. Being prepared ahead of time with all the supplies everyone has mentioned is a must to making life easier those first 2-4 weeks.