Caitlin's checkup was bad news yesterday. Despite total bracing compliance, her curves had progressed from the low 40s to the low 50s since May. The surgeon says it's time to go in and fix things before it gets harder to do so, and she'll be having the procedure in March or April of next year.
What we can't figure out is how to get along between now and then. Not the blood giving and bending x-rays and so on, that will just be following instructions, but the attitude in the home.
On the one hand, five months is a long time to stay in Red Alert Anxiety Mode, and we'd like to have a nice Christmas and summer (summer starts in December down here), so maybe we should just ignore it and go on as normal.
On the other hand, we don't want to trivialise it by pretending it's not scary, because it is.
On the third hand (everyone knows Mums have more than two hands) we don't want Caitlin to feel she can't talk about it because we're ignoring it, or, alternatively, obsess about it all the time because there's really nothing to be accomplished by that.
I guess I've run out of hands. Anyone who has been through this, or is going through it now have any suggestions?
Thanks - Patricia
New Zealand
What we can't figure out is how to get along between now and then. Not the blood giving and bending x-rays and so on, that will just be following instructions, but the attitude in the home.
On the one hand, five months is a long time to stay in Red Alert Anxiety Mode, and we'd like to have a nice Christmas and summer (summer starts in December down here), so maybe we should just ignore it and go on as normal.
On the other hand, we don't want to trivialise it by pretending it's not scary, because it is.
On the third hand (everyone knows Mums have more than two hands) we don't want Caitlin to feel she can't talk about it because we're ignoring it, or, alternatively, obsess about it all the time because there's really nothing to be accomplished by that.
I guess I've run out of hands. Anyone who has been through this, or is going through it now have any suggestions?
Thanks - Patricia
New Zealand
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