Hi friends,
I just want to write alittle of my personal story about my immediate family (not my husband though) and their non-support of my scoliosis surgery and see if anyone else has experienced this with their family/friends. I had scoliosis since I was around 12 years old. At the time when I found out from the school nurse, my parents seems to do really nothing but ignore the situation. They just started taking me to a chiropractor because they do not like regular doctors. I think they really thought the chiropractor would really straighted my spine out. I went to a chirpractor for a few years and of course my back progressed and progressed. Then they took me to a SRS doctor by the time I was like 15, who then fitted me for a brace, but I cried so hard that I didn't want to wear it, so my dad said I didn't have to, and that was the end of that. (of course, now that I am older, I WISHED i wore the brace and could care less if people made fun of me in high school). He ended up giving the back brace back to the doctor. Anyway, fast forward to now where I am 31 years old....My parents/sister (who I am really close to) were not fond of me getting surgery. My grandmother never had the surgery and she lived to be 80 years old. Her curves were both in the 100 degree range. I feel that they think if my grandmother could live with it without pain, then I could. My grandma never even took anytype of medicine for her pain. I basically have had no support from them or my sister. When I told my sister back in November that I was getting scoliosis surgery, she made a comment about how I could get paralyzed!! My mom is always worrying about my kids (which I think is great and I love her for that and appreciate her watching my kids), but she really never asks how I'm doiing or feeling. The other day when the kids were acting up, she made a comment like, "See, having this type of surgery with 2 young kids wasn't a good idea....how are you going to handle this? The comments that she makes along with my sister make me want to cry.
THey always say the wrong thing about the surgery. After my surgery, my sister never even asked how I was feeling!!!
Anyway, i have alot of friends who are very, very supportive. Without them and this forum, I'd be lost. Why do family members just do not get it? All the support I have for this surgery is basically my husband, and all my friends.
Does anyone else have people in their lives that just don't understand why we need the surgery? I know it's an "elective surgery", but some of us really need it!!
Just wanted to see if any other people are in the same boat.
Thanks,
JenM
I just want to write alittle of my personal story about my immediate family (not my husband though) and their non-support of my scoliosis surgery and see if anyone else has experienced this with their family/friends. I had scoliosis since I was around 12 years old. At the time when I found out from the school nurse, my parents seems to do really nothing but ignore the situation. They just started taking me to a chiropractor because they do not like regular doctors. I think they really thought the chiropractor would really straighted my spine out. I went to a chirpractor for a few years and of course my back progressed and progressed. Then they took me to a SRS doctor by the time I was like 15, who then fitted me for a brace, but I cried so hard that I didn't want to wear it, so my dad said I didn't have to, and that was the end of that. (of course, now that I am older, I WISHED i wore the brace and could care less if people made fun of me in high school). He ended up giving the back brace back to the doctor. Anyway, fast forward to now where I am 31 years old....My parents/sister (who I am really close to) were not fond of me getting surgery. My grandmother never had the surgery and she lived to be 80 years old. Her curves were both in the 100 degree range. I feel that they think if my grandmother could live with it without pain, then I could. My grandma never even took anytype of medicine for her pain. I basically have had no support from them or my sister. When I told my sister back in November that I was getting scoliosis surgery, she made a comment about how I could get paralyzed!! My mom is always worrying about my kids (which I think is great and I love her for that and appreciate her watching my kids), but she really never asks how I'm doiing or feeling. The other day when the kids were acting up, she made a comment like, "See, having this type of surgery with 2 young kids wasn't a good idea....how are you going to handle this? The comments that she makes along with my sister make me want to cry.
THey always say the wrong thing about the surgery. After my surgery, my sister never even asked how I was feeling!!!
Anyway, i have alot of friends who are very, very supportive. Without them and this forum, I'd be lost. Why do family members just do not get it? All the support I have for this surgery is basically my husband, and all my friends.
Does anyone else have people in their lives that just don't understand why we need the surgery? I know it's an "elective surgery", but some of us really need it!!
Just wanted to see if any other people are in the same boat.
Thanks,
JenM
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