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10-14-2004, 05:50 PM
well sorry to say nicole wasn't able to donate today. It was not a good day. We went there with some tears and then they took a finger prick to check her iron, which the nurse said was excellent (i guess those flintstone vitamins did the job), but nicole was hysterically crying and the nurse said if she didn't calm down she would not do it and nicole would not calm down, she really got herself worked up. The nurse said it is ridiculous that the surgeon makes them donate and someone should donate for her. Now i have to call the surgeon tomorrow and also find out if my husband or i match her blood. So it was not a good day at all.

10-15-2004, 11:39 AM
Poor Nicole and mom. I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience. Let us know what the surgeon says. Hopefully everyone is much calmer now. Good luck!

10-15-2004, 11:38 PM
I know the feeling, I was 13 when I had to go in and donate blood. we went to the blood bank 3 times and each time i was too nervous to get blood taken. ended up having 3 family friends donate blood. It really is too much for kids or young adults to donate blood even for themselves

10-16-2004, 07:29 AM
Jennifer ,

So sorry you had such a bad experience. It's so difficult to see your child scared or in pain. It takes you right back to that visit to the pediatrician when your baby got her first shot, doesn't it! We are all thinking of you and Nicole.


10-16-2004, 02:43 PM
hi engine
thanks for writing. Well at least my daughter isn't the only who couldn't donate for herself. The nurse at the blood bank agreed that if these kids are too nervous they shouldn't have to do it, it's enough that they have to go through the surgery. We are having trouble finding out my daughters blood type. Hospital where she was born for some reason says they don't have her type on file and either does the pediatrician. So this is turning into a real pain.
thanks again for writing

10-16-2004, 04:56 PM
Just a note of support, Jennifer, it sounds like you are having some traumatic times. Sounds like a nice nurse, though...

Look after youself and think how great it will be when it's all over... ~Laura

10-16-2004, 04:58 PM
hi laura,
yes, things i think are getting pretty stressful, i guess it would be easier if my daughter was alittle more eaiser to deal with.
thanks for the support. I can't wait for this to be over

10-18-2004, 02:17 AM
Iam so sorry you and Nichole had such a terrrible day trying to get the blood done. Maybe your storey does some good and makes me think perhaps the nurse gave some good advice and I will rethink my daughter giving her blood. But then where will ALL the blood come from? You know they will only take one unit from a person at a time. The more I talk to people the more I hear how weak a person is after they have given and it takes time to get built back up. So maybe it is better if Nic doesn't giv.
We go for pre op Thursday.:(
Finding out the blood type is a challenge. I understand the only way to find your type is to go to the bloodbank and get typed.
Bc I also research the pediatrician and hospital and unless there has been major surgery usually there is no record they said. (So I guess soon we all will have that record!!).
I thought about you that day and am trying to get vitamins down
Ste also. Good Luck and let us know your next move.

Bill's mom
10-20-2004, 08:27 AM

Bill - who is also having his surgery on Nov. 3 - has come down with a sinus infection so he is on antibiotics. Because of the infection and the antibiotics, he cannot give a second unit of blood. (Won't be enough time between getting off the antibiotics and surgery.) Because he already gave a unit, we knew his blood type and he matched my husband so my husband will give a unit for him. When I spoke with the surgeon's assistant, he acted like it was no big deal to have someone else donate. It's done all the time. So don't (at least TRY not to) worry.

Your daughter should match you or your husband's blood type. How much blood has your doctor requested? Our surgeon only requested two units of blood, so it's not really as overwhelming as it seems.

If I remember correctly, your pre-op is tomorrow. Good luck with your appointment.


10-20-2004, 09:24 AM
hi kay
i was so worried that nicole wouldn't be the one donating, but the nurse at the donating center made very light of it and when i called the surgeon's office they made like it wasn't the biggest deal either. I took nicole yesterday to the pediatrician's office and the did a blood test on her and we will find out her blood type tomorrow.

Better off bill got sick now. I am so worried about her getting sick and the surgery would have to be postponed. I have a slight cold now as a matter of fact and hope it goes away so i can donate for her. At least you know he's be better in time for the surgery.

10-21-2004, 12:42 AM
Hi Susan,
Sorry Bill has come down ill, but I agree I'm sure by surgery he will be in good condition! I am fighting with my daughter about staying out late Halloween and making herself catch cold (you know that always seems to be the weekend we have the first real coldfront move in.) She does not want to be treated differently bc of her situation. So many issues like the school won't help her to park close and she stubbornly carries heavy books. I just hope she realizes the consequences if she does these things after surgery!! It is hard to change your ways I know. Oops guess I got off the subject.. anyway I wish I would have thought to have her donate early, but alot of people do act like it's not a big deal. So I will try and take your advice and not worry too much. The scheduler guy at our Dr office was wishywashy about her donating so guess we'll confront the Dr about that more tomorrow. It just seems like everything moves so fast in those offices. Have you done your preop yet? I think we are doing ours a little early bc the Dr is going on vacation end of Oct.
Thank you for thinking of us, I'll write again. Kay

Well at least you got the blood typing behind you. That's a step right! I just got the scoliosis book by David Wolpert? that alot of people recommended, guess I will be cramming to get it read soon. Now I forget, have you done your preop stuff too? They act like it's just xrays (which we are anticipating to be worse) and the blood donating with a thousand questions. It seems like they would check more vital statistics but I suppose we will do whatever were told, as I sometimes feel like I'm in a transe sp?(bad dream).
I hope we get a nice nurse like you seem to have had,I know my daughter is getting very stressed too.
Thanks for the replys,I'll let you know how it went.

10-21-2004, 06:55 AM
hi kay,
i feel like this is all a bad dream also. We did all the pre-op, which was the ekg, mri, etc. and monday we go for our last medical clearance and meet with the surgeon for the last time before the surgery. This whole thing is so sureal to me. I am so worried that nicole will catch a cold or something. Today we will find out from the pediatrician what her blood type is so someone can donate for her. I was hoping i would be the match and donate for her but i have this little cold with a lingering slight cough and i don't know if i can donate with this.
what are you packing for the hospital?

ps i read that book. I think i read every scoliosis book there is. I heard to bring something to read for the hospital as well.

Mary Lou
10-21-2004, 01:06 PM
Thank you. Every one of you have been helping me. My 13 year old daughter is scheduled for surgery December 7th and I'm finding out I'm not alone in my worries. My daughter is small for her age (87 pounds) and I'm concerned that she won't be able to donate blood for herself. I know I am the same blood type as she is and hope I can donate for her if need be. I worry about her getting sick and rescheduling the surgery. As for finding out her blood type, have any of you checked with the hospital where she was born? I know for a fact that both of my daughters had their blood typed when they were born. The hospital never told me they had been tested, but I looked at the paperwork that the nurses filled out for them and found out that way.

As for our daughters carrying heavy books at school--I've told my daughter that she will be having a set of books at home and another set of books left at school. She will leave the book in the appropriate classroom. I've also told her she will probably leave class a few minutes early so she isn't in the hallways when they are really busy. SHE HATES ALL OF THOSE SUGGESTIONS!! So please know that we are all going through the same thing.

Have any of you told people not to come visit after surgery if they are sick? I feel that I need to tell everyone that because I know for a fact some people are so inconsiderate and will come to visit when sick. I'm looking for a nice way to do so.

Mary Lou

10-21-2004, 01:37 PM
i don't blame you for not wanting people to come visit if they are sick and when someone says they are going to come visit, i would just are you all healthy, just letting them know in a subtle way to make sure they aren't sick. My daughters surgery is in 2 weeks and i am worried that someone will get her sick beforehand, like one of her friends or one of my other childrens friends. I know people can be inconsiderate and let someone come over if they are sick.
About finding out the blood type from the hosptial, we tried that and they did not type her when she was born they said, but today we found out her blood type from a blood test and she matches my husband so he will have to be the one to donate for her.
good luck and stay in touch

Karen Ocker
10-21-2004, 03:37 PM
I was out and out blunt with others about avoiding illness. I just explained I was afraid to get sick and cancell my surgery. Use of the antibacterial hand gels and more frequent hand washing are scientifically based measures that many people do not use. I avoided crowds and did not shake hands in church.

It's really more of a priority to avoid disease at this crucial time than to be "nice". Most people will understand.


10-26-2004, 12:55 AM

I agree with Karen, priority of our childs getting well rules over "nice", hopefully no one will take our guidelines personally although I'm sure we all have a few family or friends that don't fully understand all the concerns we are dealing with. Everyone is trying to do the right thing for us now that we are getting close so hopefully any one thinking they are ill will have the brains to NOT come visit. Am I sounding stressed?
And so glad to hear another daughter "HATES ALL THE SUGGESTIONS" also. I was wondering if I was the only mom saying these things, I guess that's our job..So yes it seems we are going through the same things.
Also at preop our Dr. said he will inform the school she will need 2 sets of books. So see girls we are right!!
My daughter is thin also and I am really worried about the weight loss, but I guess we will have to deal with it bc it is impossible to get any lbs on her. I have tried financial bribing and later curfews but to no avail. good luck and write again, Kay

10-26-2004, 01:15 AM
Susan,Jennifer and all,
We went to the preop Thurs and Fri my husband and I donated each a unit of blood. They could not take any from her bc her blood pressure was tooo low. She almost fainted just from being typed!!
Thank God we are all the same type so they will use mine and husbands blood. Also the new xrays showed her curve has gone from 52 to 65 degrees (in 4 months!).
We are argueing about Halloween weekend and I really want to keep her under lock and key from now untill THE DAY. But this is very hard since everyone considers that radical of me.She went on the lake Sat. but to my protest at least wore a wetsuit while wakeskateing..crossing my fingers the vitamins do their job!!!
Let me know how everyone is doing as we all are getting closer to the next step.
Prayers to all...Kay

Bill's mom
10-26-2004, 10:24 AM
Kay and Jennifer,

Kay - Glad to hear that the blood donating went well for you.

Bill's curve was worse at his pre-op also. It has gone from 53 (in July) to 63 this month.

I'm really concerned he won't be ready for surgery next week because of illness and that stresses me. Even my husband is getting stressed. (Bill, God bless him, is still just cruising along.)

He's still on antibiotics for his sinus infection and is coughing more now, so we went back to the pediatrician today and she switched his antibiotics. Hopefully, that'll do the trick. We're even considering keeping him home from school until after surgery. There are so many viruses going around.

As far as limiting activities, I can't imagine letting him loose these last days to do water sports. (Kay, I think you're being a very good sport about it. Tell your daughter to be gratefull I'm not her mother!)

As far as Halloween, I think he's content to not do too much. Maybe he'll just have a few friends over but it'll be very low key. Again, perhaps because he's still not feeling well.

Can't wait for it to all be over and for us to share our "after" stories.

Take care,

10-26-2004, 10:32 AM
hi kay,
yesterday we went to meet with surgeon and rest of pre op, nicole also got worse she was 52 in july and now she is 61. I kind of wasn't surprised. Well, 1 week to go from tomorrow. stay in touch

10-26-2004, 10:35 AM
hi susan
i can't believe he's still sick. I thought he would be better by now. Hopefully that's what he needed a different antibiotic. Hopefully that will do the trick. He still has a week to recoup. I'm sure he will be fine by then.
keeping my fingers crossed for you